Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

I have been writing in a journal before bed at night. I don’t write any deep or emotional thoughts, I just write what I did that day. Plain and simple.

I went back and looked at a couple of my first entries into this journal and I noticed something.

In the first pages of my journal I talk about having difficulty with new habits I am trying to create. How I find it hard waking up early and sometimes I miss the gym.

I had completely forgotten about my progress through this period.

Before I revisited these journal entries I was going through a phase where I felt like I wasn’t making any headway in life. I felt like I was on a treadmill going nowhere.

I was constantly comparing myself to everyone around me, thinking that I wasn’t doing enough.

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By taking a journey through my thoughts from months ago, I realized that I had improved in nearly every area of my life.

Comparing myself today against myself a short time ago was like night and day.
It gave me confidence.

Don’t compare yourself to other people.

When you look at someone else your instinct is to pick out every one of their good qualities that you lack, and weigh them against yourself.

The problem is that the things that make you amazing, probably aren’t the same for that person. You might be jealous of their girlfriend, but do they have friends and family as amazing as yours?

The things that make you unique can’t always be measured and compared against another person properly.

Outlines vs. Details.

Another major problem with comparing yourself to other people is that you only see an outline of that person.

When you look at yourself, you know every single painstaking detail backwards and forwards. You know every blemish on your body, every negative personality trait.

Looking at people as they walk past, you might assume that their life is great but you don’t know what they go home to. You don’t know what goes on inside their head.

You are building the image of the people around you up so much higher than yourself, when in reality they have struggles and hardships just the same as you.

Like it or not, you are who you are.

The only thing you can do is be better than the person you were yesterday. If you can do that then you should be proud of yourself.

Comparing yourself to other people will distract you from your own journey.

Horses wear blinders during races so that they can stay focused on the carrot without being distracted by the other horses.

Put up your blinders and go after your own carrot with all your might.

2 thoughts on “Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

  1. True words! Some one always envies what we have while we are busy envying others. We should only look to those below us in material things and to those above us in virtues. That way we focus on what is important.

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