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A Lesson in Happiness

I haven’t discovered the key to happiness yet. I don’t quite know where life is taking me or where I’ll be in the next few years. Am I happy with my life right now? Yes. Could I be happier? Of course I could. There is always room for that.

Happiness means different things to different people. Some people find happiness in money, women, drugs, sex, marriage, video games, careers, etc. Some find it in knitting, stamp collecting, wine-making, and hopscotch.

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For me, my current happiness lies in making YouTube videos (Check out my channel here). It is something that I would have never fathomed in my younger introverted days. But, now it has blossomed into something that I truly love.

There are a ton of naysayers, a ton of people telling me pursue something with my degree, get a good job and start a family. I feel like that life isn’t for me right now. I need to follow my passions. You need to follow yours.

We can all argue different perspectives to what the key to happiness is because it means different things to different people. For me, I know that the key to my personal happiness only lies within me.

The key to YOUR happiness only lies within you. No one else possesses (or should possess) the capacity to ruin your happiness. Not your friends, family, significant others, co-workers, bosses, government, or the people I may have left out.

Negative statements and remarks come from all sides to hinder people. It is one of the many sad truths of human nature. But we cannot let these comments affect us.

Everyone is responsible for their own happiness

Do not hinge your happiness on anything external. Instead, anchor it to yourself. You are the key to your own happiness. Happiness seems like such a fickle emotion. It can change in a matter of a few seconds. But on the flip side you have the ability to choose!

In your head, you get to choose what affects you. You get to choose how you feel (for the most part). The human mind has the capacity for amazing ideas, feelings, notions, and concepts.

You can choose to let certain things affect you. You can choose what you want to filter out and disregard. Don’t let a Facebook ‘unfriend’ or a Twitter ‘unfollow,’ or any rude comments surfacing in your life affect you. They are insignificant in the larger spectrum.

I ask myself four questions when something ‘terrible’ (Most of the time it isn’t terrible, but your mind overplays it) occurs.

1) Is there anything wrong right now? (The answer is always no, unless I am literally put in a life/death situation which has never happened…yet)

2) Can I change this situation? (Can I ignore the comment? Can I walk away? The answer is usually a resounding yes.)

3) How do I feel right now? (Once I discover that I’m not in a life/death situation, the answer to this question is usually ‘content’)

4) Am I able to continue with my life? (Even though sometimes your mind decides that you can’t, when you ask yourself this question, you quickly realize that no matter what the problem, the ability to move on is always there.)

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Analyze the problem with a level head and ask yourself these questions. In most situations letting the minor things hinder your happiness is not worth it. If you have trouble with this, check out my last post.

Unless you’re in a life/death situation you should let anything hinder you. You deserve to be happy. You owe it to yourself. In life, you don’t have the opportunity of practices runs and cheat codes. You get one. Make the best of it and live as happy as you deserve to be.

What do you do when you are unhappy? When faced with adversity? Leave a comment in the section below. My readers and I would love to hear from you.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

The Power of Mistakes

Recently, I was terrified of losing my job. I did something bad and I had terrible thoughts racing through my head.

“How would I pay my bills? What am I going to do without money? How the hell am I supposed to survive? No one is hiring anymore.”

I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. Do I regret them? No. Definitely not. My mistakes have made me who I am. They have made me stronger, better, and faster. I am pretty much the three million dollar man, minus the three million dollars.

With every mistake that I make, I discover more about myself. About who I am, my limits, capabilities, and what I can and cannot do. They help me become a more compassionate and tolerant person, not only to others, but also with myself.

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Mistakes Are ALRIGHT.

You can learn valuable life lessons from every mistake. Do not let that mistake go in vain. Learn, progress and strive for something better.

I will never make the same mistake at work again. I cannot afford to. I do not want to relive that brief moment, where I had fears of losing my livelihood.

There is so much we can learn from our mistakes, and the moment we see them as lessons rather than mistakes, we will no longer possess this irrational fear of encountering them.

“To Err is Human” – Alexander Pope

Mistakes are a part of being human. Appreciate your mistakes for what they are. They are integral to building a better you.

Don’t Be Afraid of Mistakes

It is interesting that mistakes are something that everyone does, but most people are afraid of them. They are afraid of failing, screwing up or disappointing someone. Sometimes, I am afraid.

But, rise above it. You have to. No, you need to. If you play it safe, stay in your comfort zone, your life will be a full basket of regrets. You will have more regrets about the things you did not do rather than the things you did do, you will regret not making more mistakes.

When I started working out, I was timid. I was afraid of what people might think.

“Who is this fat kid? What is he trying to do? He looks so stupid right now.”

I could not get over the hump of the judgmental stares. I limited myself to certain activities to avoid ridicule. I was afraid of trying new things because people would laugh if I made mistakes.

In most cases, your mistakes only matter to you. In the brevity of human life, mistakes do not matter.

One thing I learned from working out is that people are generally self-absorbed and not looking (or even caring) about you. Those stares were all in my head. I was self-conscious and let the fear of making mistakes hinder my abilities.

Failure is Necessary

In order to succeed, you must fail. You must fail consistently, for a long period of time. Falling flat on your face is the best motivator.

Recently, a friend and I started a YouTube channel (2HelpfulGuys). Check it you when you have a chance.

He is a great actor. I am not amazing, myself. I make the same mistakes, over and over and over again.

I cannot seem to wrap my head around certain lines. The bloopers are almost endless, as I struggle to achieve a few good takes. But making the same mistakes repeatedly, I slowly learn.

Accept the mistakes and move on.

I gain and hone the abilities, one at a time. Eventually, I will be able to limit the bloopers. I will progress and achieve my goals.

But, it has to stem from my mistakes.

DOH