I went to a social gathering this past weekend and was called a quasi-hipster. After looking up what all those words meant, I am still very confused. I simply do not understand how or what makes a quasi-hipster.
Regardless of the matter, it started to make me think of body image. We get wrapped up in all these different styles and labels that we end up losing our individuality and, inevitably, ourselves. I am incredibly guilty of this.
I have changed my physical self more times than I can count. I used to be overweight and unhealthy. I’ve had multiple hairstyles. I’ve changed my clothing style. What more can I really change? What makes me constantly want to change?
I feel like people are not happy with who they are. Media destroys who you are and implants ideas of who you are supposed to be.
But those images are terrible for you. Avoiding media is an integral step. How? Media is literally everywhere. It’s impossible. Instead, limit your consumption. You can choose to avoid television or that specific image magazine. Reducing your consumption will decrease the thoughts about it.
When your heads soaks up these false body images it takes a toll on your brain. When I was younger, I used to look at fitness magazines, religiously. I have wanted a six-pack so badly. But, why? I felt a six-pack would complete me. But would a six-pack make me happy? Make me feel whole?
The short answer is no. I have realized that now. I don’t need a six-pack to be whole. I am great the way I am. So are you. A six-pack is a want. Attaining it or not will not change who I truly am. That is a mere want, not a need.
It’s not that you can never attain your ideal body. I truly believe you can accomplish anything you want. But why change who you are? You are simply perfect the way you are.
Getting wrapped up in these ideals ruins your potential. Instead, believe that you are different and awesome. Attain inner happiness first. Be happy with yourself, for yourself. On those particularly bad days, write down all the goods things about you.
Here’s some help: I like my determination, personality, and persistence. I think I have nice eyes and a hell of a smile. My hair is ragged most days, but when it co-operates, it works out quite well.
It’s always good to have a goal. But do not let that goal take over. When it comes to body image, I like to imagine myself a certain way. Then I image my life after I look this way. In my visualization, my life never changes significantly.
Regrettably, I still do not have six-pack. But this doesn’t change me. This does not make me less of a person. What makes me less of a person is wallowing in my despair over a lack of a ‘perfect’ body. One day, I will reach that goal, but until then, I am quite happy with myself.
“To lose confidence in one’s body is to lose confidence in oneself.” – Simone de Beauvoir
Still though, I can’t help but feel weird. When I was younger, comments on my body image used to bother me, a lot. However, it does not have the same effect on me. So why is this time any different? But why does this one make me think? I still don’t know. I don’t have all the answers. But what I do know, is that I am awesome and so are you.