How The HelpfulGuys Help Each Other

Here at 2HelpfulGuys we cut through distractions, remove illusions and get right to the heart of the subjects that will allow us all to grow to our fullest potential.

In our 130 articles we’ve explored many topics including becoming more confident, pushing through obstacles, changing your daily habits and designing your dream life, to even just getting through a bad day.

Although, it isn’t to often that we discuss how the 2HelpfulGuys operate together to create this optimal environment for our constant growth.

In this article I hope to show you the types of qualities you should look for in your relationships, friendships, and business partnerships. No one can do everything alone, and having the right people around you can be the deciding factor in whether or not you lead a happy and successful life.

Today, I am going to pull back the curtains and discuss my friendship and business partnership with my fellow HelpfulGuy: Leroy Milton.

Strengths And Weaknesses

Leroy and I met as coworkers at a grocery store when we were 16 or 17. Back then we were completely different people. He was reserved and shy, I was over-the-top outgoing.

He was a moral person who treated people with respect, he didn’t let things get to him very easily and always seemed happy. It is embarrassing to admit, but I was not a moral person at all.

Every one thought I was, but I lied a lot and didn’t feel much empathy towards other people. This was especially a problem in relationships, I would cheat and lie constantly. It’s not something I’m proud of.

Over the course of our friendship we learned a lot from our respective strengths.

I exposed Leroy to a lot of ideas and perspectives that he had never experienced before. I remember him saying at one point “I didn’t know people like you existed!” He became more outgoing and confident around me. One of my most cherished memories was when he said “I don’t worry about saying whatever joke is on my mind because when you’re around, I know i’ll get at least one laugh.”

He showed me what it is like to be a good person and how good it feels to be able to respect yourself.

I had ideas and knowledge, but I barely knew how to accomplish the most basic of tasks. He taught me so many life skills: Cleaning, working out, motivating yourself to accomplish things, cooking, and the list goes on and on.

But this isn’t just a feel good story.

Within everyone you meet, you will find that they have strengths and weaknesses. You can learn to emulate their strengths, and learn from their weaknesses.

Lifting You Up

The second quality you should be looking for in any of your relationships is support.

Whether you know it or not, we are all impressionable to a degree. The people you see most often have a great impact on your view of the world, and yourself.

If you keep people around you that doubt your abilities and put you down, their thinking will infect you. If you have people around you that encourage and support you, you will be able to bounce back from anything much faster.

Leroy and I have been through some rough times throughout our friendship. At times where I’ve felt like there is no hope left, he has been there to help me.

We can’t always be happy, or even stable, but if we can lean on the people around us we will never fall.

Respecting Boundaries And Rules

This is a big one. No matter how good a person is or how close you are, if they can’t respect your boundaries then it won’t work out.

One of the reasons that Leroy and I never argue is that accept each others lines in the sand.

An example of this is “The Box.”

Whenever there is someone or something that one of us doesn’t want to talk about, all we say is “Let’s just put it in the box.” and after that it is never mentioned again.

The best way to ensure a long lasting friendship or business partnership is to respect each others boundaries over all else. Even one step over the line can taint a relationship for good.

Leroy and I have been friends for a long time and I’ve learned a lot about friendship. I’m not saying that if you look for these qualities in a person that all problems will disappear, but with these qualities you can be assured that you will make it through any obstacles that come your way.

Our relationships with the people around us shapes us so much more than we can comprehend. I hope that you take a look at the relationships in your life and ask yourself if they are the quality you deserve.

What other qualities can you think of that foster amazing relationships?
Discuss in the comments below!

Finers

Sipping on Hater-ade

I’ve decided that I want a beard for September (school time). Naturally, I have to start growing it now. My facial hair grows tremendously slow. I’ve been growing it since March and I think it looks great.

i-hate-you-made-by-swiix_00443412Why am I bringing this up? Well recently, someone made a comment that made me think. “That’s a disgusting beard. You look like Bin Laden.” It someone discouraged me but, regardless, I am keeping the beard.

No matter what you do in life, whether it has to do with work, school, or even your hobbies, you are going to run into haters. You are going to run into people that are going to put you down and try to hold you back from reaching your true potential.

They won’t understand what you’re doing or why you’re doing it and will attack you for it. They will make you feel like shit to the point that you start doubting yourself.

For a brief moment in time, I was actually contemplating shaving my beard. I stared in the mirror and thought about it. But why would I set myself back based on one persons’ comment.

You have to realize that nobody can make you feel terrible without your consent. You are in control of how you feel. Do not let these people hinder your progress.

You life is too important and valuable to let the naysayers get to you.

Haters Will Always Be There 

As long as you keep changing and improving your life there will be haters that will somehow try to hold you down. They want to keep you down at their level. They can’t bear to see you succeed or progress.

There really is nothing you can say or do to stop them from hating. Arguing with haters is like arguing with a brick wall. You will get nowhere. You cannot change another persons’ opinion unless they want to change first.

You just have to ignore them and move on. Nod and smile at them. In your head, acknowledge their comment and throw it away. Hold no bearing to it.

Of course it is always important to be open-minded and try to see things from a different perspective, if it is constructive criticism. But if it is just blatant malicious attacks, spare no mental energy on it.

The Argument

You have the power to determine how you feel every second of every day. Everyone gets haters, but the difference between winning and losing in this situation, is how you decide to handle it.

Arguing with a hater is giving the person too much credit. You are trying to validate or justify your standpoint. You do not need to justify your viewpoint with a hater.

You can’t have a logical debate with them because their hate is coming from an insecure, illogical place. And if you try to attack them back, it turns into a bigger argument that solves nothing, and in the end you still feel crappy.

In the end, what it comes to down to is this. There will be a lot of positive supportive people in your life. There will also be haters in your life. That is the sad truth and the harsh reality.

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Do not let these negative people consume you. Don’t let other peoples’ words and actions determine whom you are and what you’re going to do. Live for yourself. What people think about you is their reality, not yours.

I will continue to grow this beard until I have determined when I am done with it (if ever). How do you deal with the haters in your life? Leave a comment below, my readers and I would love to hear from you.

Be bold, be free and love on.