The Power of a Compliment

“ ___________, you look beautiful today.” Earlier this week, I said that to a co-worker. I really thought nothing of it. I thought she looked really pretty that day and decided to tell her.

At that time, it was just a thought I had. I found out yesterday, that those words made her feel amazing.

-Inner Conversation- Well Of course, Leroy! You can call anyone beautiful and they’ll absolutely melt (as long as you’re being sincere). –Inner Conversation-

I had no idea at that time, but those few simple words lit up her day, she said. She was having a terrible struggle inside (none of power-of-words-300x236which I knew about) and something as simple as you look nice today had a profound effect on her.

There is so much power in words. I feel like most people do not realize its impact. Personally, until this moment, I never really (I MEAN, REALLY) thought about the impact of words.

The impact it can have on people. The impact it can have on emotions and feelings. The impact it can have on people’s thoughts. It is incredibly powerful.

Nice things are simply not said enough. 

Compliments are usually kept to themselves. The majority of the time people only think about a compliment. It is a rare occasion when it’s actually spoken. Why though?

Maybe people think it may be misconstrued? Maybe they’re just shy? Or maybe people are afraid of being accused for hitting on someone. These all seem like terrible excuses.

For me, I realized that nice things are simply not said enough. Instead, we dish out criticisms and “constructive criticism.” There is nothing wrong with constructive criticism, but why not say something positive in lieu?

It is an upsetting realization, but negative things are said more than positive things. We spend our time gossiping, putting people down and hurting people, lying to people, instead of complimenting them.

Where has all the love gone? Or maybe it was just never there? Regardless, we need to bring it back to life.

Everyone has their own struggles.

I express my thoughts through this blog. Prior to this venue, they were held within my head, festering and compiling upon itself and eating away at me. This is my venue to vent, express, and deal with my many thoughts.

But for the people who can’t vent, their struggles are inside their own head. Everyone has their own struggles, their own problems, and their own negative emotions to deal with.

A simple kind word has a profound effect on people. It alleviates their problems (even if it is for a brief moment), boosts good mood, and dishes out a dose of positivity in, what may be, their negative life.

I learned this valuable lesson this week. From this day forth, I will focus on casting away negative words. I will pay close attention to my own gossip, criticism, and negative words.

I will intervene when someone tries to put people down and hurt people. I am going to start the activity of complimenting (at least) one person each day. Slowly that number will rise. Whether it can be misconstrued as flirting or not, I will do it for the simple opportunity of making someone feel happy.

I implore you today and everyday, to do the same. I am only one man. I can only reach so many people. There is great power in simple compliments. Instead of even risking the chance of hurting someone, help someone with your words.

“Words can inspire. And words can destroy. Choose yours well” – Robin Sharma

At the end of the day, words are free. They are able to love, accomplish, and create everything. Be the change, be the positive in someone’s life today.

Be bold, be free, and love on.DailyKindness_Flyer3OFF

Three Ways to Feel Inner Peace

I am not a Zen master. I do not see myself as having no problems. In fact, I feel like I have a ton of problems. But that’s a part of life. Life is filled with problems.

The other day, someone said to me, “Leroy, you’re always happy. You seem so at peace, so put together all the time, just so happy. How do you do it?”

That statement caught me off guard. Inside my own head, there are constant battles and struggles brewing and festering. There’s always something that I think about.

But why did that person get that notion from me? I feel far from it. But I must be putting off some sort of vibe for someone to say that. There must be some sort of energy that I am releasing that others are picking up on.

Well, even though I have a lot of inner struggles, I try to be the most positive, happy person I can be, outside. This is not a façade, or fake, or fabricated. I just don’t want to bring anyone else down.

I feel like I deal with problems effectively. I feel like I am control (sometimes). Here’s how I deal with it.

1) Realize that it’s not a big deal.

Some problems are just not as big as they are at the time it occurs. They get inflated within your own thoughts. They fester and grow until it consumes you. Little problems become big problems.

I try to think of EVERY problem as a little problem. No matter how small (or large) it may seem, approach your problem as if it were small. Heading towards a problem with that mindset automatically flicks your brain towards an optimistic view.

You feel like you can manage it, overcome it and stand on top of the mountain, victorious.

2) Distract yourself

It’s a surefire solution to get your mind of a problem. Simply do something else. Not just anything, but something you really enjoy. Something you really enjoy is when you think about nothing else, but that activity.

For me, that is working out. I find it incredibly therapeutic. For a few hours everyday, I forget everything and slip into thoughts of the blood rushing into my muscles. Thoughts of muscles contracting and relaxing fill my head as I pull and push more and more weight.

Find something that you love, and dedicate time towards it, every single day. It gives your brain a break from all the inner turmoil.

3) Everything will be fine in the end. 

Everything always seems to work itself out. I don’t really know how it works or what force moves it to work, but everything always seems to work itself out.

Problems always come and go, and no matter how big or small they are, there is always a resolve. Either you deal with it or some force in nature (call it Science, God, or the Universe) throws its’ helpful hand in the mix.

If you worry about the problem, the bigger it becomes. You keep it in the forefront of your mind. You are the only one letting the problem still rear its’ ugly head. The more you think about the problem, the larger it becomes.

Problems do not go away unless you stop thinking about it. I don’t believe in miracles, but I do believe in the universe.

The more you think about your problems, the more problems seem to surface. Think positive thoughts, put on a brave face and spread a positive message (You can even share this blog on your social media).

How do you cope with problems? Please leave a comment below. My readers and I would love to hear your input! Thank you for reading, liking, and sharing.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

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