One Simple Lesson Learned From Ducks.

Everyone has problems. That is just a part of being alive and human. Then again, even animals have problems. They have serious food chain problems. Their problems are much more life threatening.

While some of problems are life threatening, most are small. We enlarge them in our own head through our thoughts and feelings. We make them bigger than they are.

We allow them to take up a lot of mental energy and expend our time and effort by thinking about it.

Don’t Sweat the Little Things

“She said what about me. I don’t know how to do this. I can’t find a job. I can’t believe an ex is seeing a close friend. The weather is dreadful today.”

We take these little problems and let them endlessly circle our heads. They occupy so much mental energy even though they will have no bearing on your future.Problem-Solving

Next time you find yourself contemplating a problem, think about how much it would matter to you in 60 years. How much would it matter to you 50 years? 25 years? 10 years? 5 years? 1 year? 3 months?

It arranges the problem into perspective. If these problems do not affect you in the long-term, sweating about it is a gigantic waste of time.

Don’t Make Them Larger Than They Are

At the current time, any problem seems large. It seems like it’s taking over your life. You feel paralyzed with fear, anguish, and regret. In most cases problems are extrapolated in our own heads.

We make them larger than life. We want to complain about it. We keep it in our heads because we need to feel something. Most problems are small. They have no real bearing on your life.

Complaining about it gives the problem a life. It makes it larger than normal. It fuels the problem till it becomes something worth talking about. Save yourself from it.

Be Like A Duck

I watch the ducks at my work float along the water. They seem to have such inner peace and stillness in their bodies. They just sit there and let the current sweep them away.

During a confrontation between ducks, peace can be observed. After two ducks get in a fight they will separate and float off in separate directions. Then each duck will flap its wings vigorously a few times to release the surplus energy that built up during the fight.

The_Duck_by_clumsypersonAfter they flap their wings, they float on peacefully, as if nothing had ever happened. These ducks are pretty low on the food chain, yet they seem to hold no qualms with the world. Even after a fight for life, they appear to be at peace.

Your problems hinder your ability to be at peace. Constantly being stuck in a loop of problems hinders your thoughts and actions. Be like the duck. Release all your energy from the problem.

Complain no more, think about it no more and move towards a peaceful life. How do you deal with the little problems in your life? Leave a comment below. My readers and I would love to hear from you.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

One Lesson to Happiness.

I want to preface this by saying; I do not know what happiness actually means. Sure there is a dictionary definition, but it means different things to different people. To me, happiness means inner peace and ability to think freely, clearly and without hindrance.

Expressing gratitude is a lost art in the world. Have we lost the ability to be grateful? Have we taken the simple things for granted? What if I told you that happiness is explicitly linked to gratitude? Would you believe me?

You go through your daily life, puttering around and living your life, continually taking everything for granted. I am equally as guilty, but I am trying to improve.

The more grateful you are, the happier you will feel. This is mostly because as you take things for granted, the less they mean to you. Even if these things play big roles in your life, they are overlooked.

Naturally, your brain slows down and chooses the simplest method to run your body. You start to overlook the simple and important things and live your life in a mediocre state.

“Many people who order their lives rightly in all other ways are kept in poverty by their lack of gratitude.” – Wallace Wattles

These are three methods I use to take control of my brain and my happiness.

A) Be Grateful Every Morning

I try to begin everyday with ‘thank you.’ As soon as I wake up, I start by saying thank you. Thank you for another day, thank you for opening my eyes, and thank you for another breath.

There are a lot of things that can sweep you away in the night, so I am grateful. This sets the tone for the entire day. Rather than stumbling out of bed and letting the day take control of me, I choose to intentionally create the day with gratitude.

Each morning before you get out of bed, make it a habit to feel the feelings of gratitude in advance for the great day ahead, as though it is done.

B) “Be Grateful” List

On those days, where you are filled with negative feelings, thoughts, and unhappiness, being grateful helps. Sometimes, I look around and say, “Well I don’t have a health that I want. I don’t have the money I want. I don’t have the love that I want.”

Back up for second and focus on what you already have. It might be that you have the eyes to read this. It might be the clothes you have. It might be that you have the ability to come up with ideas and solutions. Sit and down and write all the things that you are grateful for.

It eases my brain and simplifies my life. I cut out all the negative thoughts and feelings and only think about the good in my life. It is impossible to bring more into your life if you are feeling ungrateful for the things you already have. Negative thoughts only breed more negative thoughts.

C) End Your Night with Grateful

When you lie in bed, reflect on your thoughts and actions of your day. Even on a terrible day, there is always something to be grateful for. I find that being grateful helps incredibly when I’ve had a bad day.

It lulls my body to sleep and prepares myself for another challenge the next day. I feel like being grateful has altered the way I perceive difficult situations.

Next time you encounter a difficult situation, stop and think. Forget the situation and say ‘thank you.’ Next time you encounter a crappy feeling, stop and think. Forget the feeling and say ‘thank you.’ Next time you encounter a negative thought, stop and think. Forget the thought and say ‘thank you.’

You will find momentary happiness and serenity. The more exercise gratitude, the longer this powerful impression will hold.