1 Painless Tip You Need To Adjust With Sudden Change

…And my university is on strike. That’s great! That’s exactly what I needed.

-Insert my very sarcastic face here-

I don’t know how long this will hold out for, but the last time it lasted four months.

I was supposed to finish and graduate school in March, move out and start my life. I was supposed to focus on 2HelpfulGuys and write more, make more videos, and really start to focus on helping people.

I was supposed to do a lot of things, but it all hinged on school ending. Now everything is ruined. Everything is going to spiral and go downhill.

But wait, maybe it isn’t as bad as I think it is. I wrote previously that there is a positive in every situation. Maybe there is a glimmer of light somewhere in this.

I’ve discovered it over the course of the last two days. It was a valuable lesson that I needed to learn and, hopefully, you can learn as well.

Sometimes Strikes Happen

That’s just the fact of the matter. It can’t be avoided and it can’t be altered. Sometimes, things just don’t pan out the way you want.

I’ve governed the last 8 months of my life with a regimented strict routine. Sometimes there were little blips. Every time that happened, I whined a little bit.

“Oh man. I can’t believe X, Y, and Z just happened. Now my entire schedule is ruined.” 

I ruined my own day, all by myself. But in reality, it wasn’t that big of a deal. Everything carried on. I was okay. I was alive. I was still breathing.

Sometimes life throws you a curve ball. Sometimes life wants to see how you work under pressure. Life wants you to grow and transform, with each pitch it dishes out.

Change is meant to keep you on your toes, to keep you nimble and ready. Acknowledge the change as ‘good’ and carry on.

When is Change Bad?

My change was a strike, and that’s manageable. But sometimes, life throws you a huge life-changing curveball.

Someone close to you passes away, you may lose your job suddenly, or you fail your family, or worse, yourself.

It’s easy to say, “just make some lemonade, when life hands you lemons.” However, fact of the matter, we all cope differently, but we sometimes we just can’t make lemonade.

Sometimes the pressures of life closes you in this tiny inescapable box and all you want to do is have just one breathe of fresh air.

We’ve all been there. I know I have.

Take a break from it all. Allow yourself to be upset and remorseful. We are not emotionless automatons. Those emotions are natural and you should experience them.

Look inward, deep inside yourself and you will find solace. Then, look outward, to your support system and you will find solace.

We all share these bad life-changing curveballs. Confide in someone. People naturally want to help each other, for the plain reason that we, ourselves, were once alone and stuck in that oxygen-less box.

Accept.

When you expect a straight ball, life decides to pitch you curve. Be aware, be ready, and invite it. Use it as a stepping-stone to the stronger version of yourself.

In wake of the curveball, ultimately we must accept it. The ball curved, it already happened and it can’t be undone. Give yourself some time and allow yourself to move on.

For me, this strike is literally life changing. But it’s time for me to accept and move on.

I hope you do the same with all your curveballs. And for whatever struggle you’re facing, Steven and I are here to help.

Until next time my beautiful readers,

Be Bold, be free, and love on.

Live Like You’re in Your Underwear

It seems to me that everyone has a double personality. Everyone seems to be hiding who he or she really is. People are afraid to be judged and scrutinized.

People seem to put on a mask, a façade, to hide themselves from the rest of the world. Everyone has a certain way of acting in front of their family, friends, co-workers, managers, acquaintances and strangers.

I’m equally guilty of this, although I feel I am at a lesser capacity. I feel like I am the same person in public, as I am around my house in my underwear.

Am I different? I don’t know. I try to act the same with everyone. That way, there are no unpleasant surprises and miscommunication. What you see is what you get. I find it easier to live one life, rather than a series of multiple ones, catering to different audiences.

Why do people lead these multiple lives?

As mentioned, I think because the majority of people are afraid of not fitting in. Everyone wants everyone to love them, so people cater to each other. They pretend to be something, or like something, or say something out of the ordinary.

I was guilty of this. I had a mid-mid-life crisis already. I didn’t know who I was or what I wanted. I tried to desperately fit in with everyone. Said the right things, liked the right things, acted the right way.

But when I came home, I felt hollow, almost like an alien, different. I spent all day being someone else and it started taking a toll on me. It started to change me into something I didn’t like.

Live life like there is a sign above your head

I like to imagine that there is a sign above my head at all times. The sign reads out to the rest of the world exactly I am. It reveals everything I am to the rest of the world.

What does your sign say? Mine says something like:

1. Falls for girls too easy

2. Has a minimum of 50,000 thoughts a day

3. Time-traveller

4. Sometimes gets deeply upset

5. Tries to be positive, no matter what the situation

6. Used to be a heavy partier and drinker.

7. Hurts people sometimes

There’s more but I’ll spare the details for fear of making it sound like a dating profile. But imagine, if everything about you was displayed above your head?

How do you choose to live your life? How would everyone react to you? Realistically, being you comes at no extra expense to yourself.

There are six billion people in this world. You are not meant to fit into everywhere. Everyone is not meant to like you. In fact, most people will hate you. They will reject your ideas, your feelings, your thoughts and your goals.

They will try to fight you, hurt you, and push you down. However, despite this, what do you have to lose? These people still exist if you pretend to be someone else.

Save yourself the trouble, the anxiety, and stress and be yourself. Show your true colors. Appreciate who you are and stand up for what you think is right.

Above all else, aim for positive energy, aim to help each other, and aim to make others happy. These are tasks that are often overlooked. Give someone a compliment today and I promise you it will make that person (and you) feel amazing.

Speaking for myself, I don’t want my public sign saying anything terrible for the world to see. Live your life in same way you are living, when you’re at home in your underwear.

Be bold, be free, and love on.