Four Stress Relieving Methods

Recently my life has been quite stress-free. There haven’t been any problems worth worrying about and everything is going according to plan.

I don’t mean to brag. I’m sorry. But until school starts, my life will continue to be relatively stress-free. But like death and taxes, stress is virtually unavoidable in today’s world.

Although stress is an unavoidable factor, there are ways to manage it. If you manage stress, you manage your mood. I feel like it’s safe to say that everyone has an identical final goal – to be happy.

Managing stress is one of the many yellow bricks on that long road to happiness.

yellow brick road pic

1) Confide in someone

“A trouble shared is a trouble halved.” – Chinese Proverb

But don’t complain. Sharing a problem with someone close allows you share that stress factor. Share it with someone who may have encountered the same problem.

Their guidance will be extremely helpful. But be weary! Don’t complain to people, especially to random strangers.

Remember that everyone encounters stress and the majority of people do not want to hear how bad your day was. Keep your thoughts with close family and friends.

2) What are you thoughts?

Everything stems from your thoughts (well, your brain). How does your brain deal with stress and stressful situation.

i) Write it down

And throw them away (or burn them). I find, throwing your thoughts, worries, and stresses away have some profound effects. The physical act of throwing away written negative thoughts can mentally purge them.

You can also burn them. Call me a pyromaniac or arsonist (none of which I am), but there is something incredibly therapeutic about fire.


ii) “Cancel Rule”

A friend of mine suggested the “Cancel Rule.” Personally, I find this method extremely effective. Next time you are stressed and find yourself lost in your thoughts, start repeating cancel to yourself.

Repeat the word ‘cancel’ over and over again and that negative thought appears to have vanished away.

3) Go for a walk

Being in nature is calming – but even looking at an image of nature can decrease stress levels and increase positivity.

Personally speaking, I love walking outside. The sights and smells have a very calming effect on my body. Sometimes, I take outside for granted. When you stop everything and go for a walk, you really start to appreciate the beauty.

Everything is green and striving. That energy is transferred to me.

4) Breathe deeply

I’ve mentioned the importance of breath in a previous article (You can check it out here). Too few people breathe improperly. The breaths are shallow and faint because breathing is left to the unconscious mind.

Stop for a few moments and listen to your breath. Feel your breath entering your stomach and exiting your nose. Pay close attention to your breathing. It allows your body and brain to get a burst of oxygen, relieving any stress that may occur.

There are a lot of little problems in the world that can be stressed over. The key to managing stress comes from ignoring the little problems.

These problems find their way into your brain and fester until they become large ones. Following the mentioned techniques has helped me manage my stress levels.

How do you deal with stress and stressful situations? Leave a comment below. My readers and I would love to hear from you.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

Living For Yourself

I wish all divorces were like Mrs. Doubtfire. You know when Sally Field just calmly tells Robin Williams that she wants a divorce. They both agree and it’s time for hilarious antics. Instead, there is frivolous arguing and constant fighting. Does it really matter who’s right? Is there a person that will give them a medal if they are right?

I just don’t get it. What’s so hard about it? Two people can’t get along. The answer is simple. Separate. You have one life. That’s it. Unless you believe you in reincarnation, you only have one.

That’s one to achieve, inspire, aspire, help, and, most of all, live. It simply doesn’t make sense to me. Why squander your lives away? You are not getting any younger or happier. It’s just wasted time.


Live Life to The Fullest

Children laugh and smile around two hundred times a day. If you’ve ever had the pleasure to spend extended amounts of time with kids, volunteering, teaching, or even time with your own kids, you’ll see. They’re practically giddy for no apparent reason. Anything is fun and everything is about momentary happiness. As we age, laughter is reduced to eight times, roughly.

How do we go from two hundred to eight? Is there just a lack of things to be happy about? To laugh and smile about? Or is there just too much conflict? Too many things to be upset about and argue over.

For me, I don’t know what the key to happiness is. It’s so subjective. But I know you should do what you want and what makes you happy. I mean, really happy. Do something that makes you laugh or smile everyday. It’s so important to feed your happiness monster.

“Be who you are and say what you think because the people that mind don’t matter and the people that matter don’t mind” – Dr. Seuss

I love that quote. It reminds me to always be happy with myself. It reminds me of the people I surround myself with. The fact, that they are content, when I am myself. I am able to say what I want without fear of my circle shunning or ridiculing me. It makes me smile, just thinking about it.

Tick Tock Goes The Clock

You spend so much time fighting and arguing for what? It resolves nothing and just pushes you further away from laughter. It’s just wasted time. Time is so precious. People say that time flies. First, you’re crawling on all fours, crying and pooping yourself and next thing you know, you are old, barely walking with greys strands in your beard.


A tad dramatic, I know.

But when I think about it, the person I was last year is completely different than the man I am now. I’ve changed so much since last April. But I did it, by not wasting time. Think about who you were last year. What did you do? Who were your friends? What music did you like? You’ve changed so much. I know I have.

Focus on yourself and improve. Start a new hobby. Read a book. Try a new sport. Go skydiving. Exercise. Dance. Travel. Do something to achieve to add to your hypothetical achievement shelf. But, most of all, remember, that through it all, you are happy. Every other emotion should be pushed away to make more room for more happiness.

On my deathbed I want to have no regrets. I want to be able to look at hypothetical achievement shelf and see all my accomplishments. All my aspirations achieved.

For now though, I want to focus on myself, find happiness, and ignore pointless arguments.