“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
Well, I think it’s more like ten to fifteen. The ten to fifteen people we see the most have the greatest impact on us.
Surrounding ourselves with positive people changes our perceptions. As our social groups encourages, pushes and lifts us up, our own system does the same for them.
Conversely, toxic individuals are completely exhausting to be around. When we surround ourselves with negative people, it will take a toll on our mind and body.
Eventually it seeps in and consumes us. Slowly, we become complainers, judgers, gossipers, and victims.
The distractions and emotional baggage that toxic people bring into our lives are unnecessary obstacles that we must inevitably cross.
We all know a few toxic people – they might be our distant co-workers, family spouses, or our closest friends. Even a modicum of regular contact with these people influence our decisions and thought processes.
The sooner we remove them from our lives, the better. Here are four toxic individuals that we must avoid at all costs.
It seems that everyone has something to complain about. Even when life is completely amazing, these individuals find something to rant about – the weather, crime rates, global warming, etc.
Even for trivial issues, these individuals find something. It seems that they create problems when everything seems to be great, just to possess the right to complain.
As we consume others’ complaints, we forget how good our lives are and we begin to create problems out of thin air.
Avoid The Complainers at all costs.
Judgmental people will find a way to criticize anything and everything they come in contact with. They draw conclusions without understanding all the facts.
These individuals believe that they’re right in every situation. They feel like they have the right to impose their views on others.
No matter what we say to these individuals, nothing can be changed. Save your breath and your life.
Avoid The Judgers at all cost.
People gossip because they feel insecure with themselves and their lives. They cannot separate fact from speculation and when facts twisted, wrong information is spread out, and peoples’ feelings get hurt.
Gossiping can quickly change a friendly environment into a hostile environment. As people begin to gossip to us, we should change the subject or ignore them completely.
We must ask ourselves, ‘do I want to partake in hurting someone’s feelings?’
The answer to that question should always be a resounding ‘no.’
Avoid The Gossipers at all cost.
These individuals never take responsibility for their actions. They are constantly making excuses or blaming others for their mistakes and wrongdoings.
They feel like the world has a personal vendetta against them and choose to lie down and give up.
As these individuals experience further turmoil, it’s just more reason to play the damaged victim.
When you surround yourself with these people, you internalize a victim attitude. You begin to perceive the world as evil and never accept responsibility for your actions.
Avoid The Victims at all costs.
If any of these toxic individuals ring a bell, there is a high chance that you have one or more of these people in your life.
These four individuals consume our minds from the inside, out. As we constantly receive their messages, we start to identify with people.
When we turn into these people, we start to negatively impact those that close with us.
Pessimism breeds more pessimism.
However, the same can be said for optimism. As we surround ourselves with optimistic people, we, in turn, become optimistic. We spread our positive energy to those closest to us.
Pessimism and optimism are a choice. Which one do you choose to surround yourself with? Which one do you choose to spread to the rest of the world?
Until next time, my beautiful readers,
Be bold, be free, and love on.