3 Lessons From Our Mothers

If you had to clean up someones poop, puke, and pee, or had to listen to them cry and scream at all hours of day and night, you probably wouldn’t stand this person for very long.

Well, your mother went through that and a whole lot more for a very long time to make sure that you survived and became the slightly less poop and pee covered person that you are today.

Our mothers not only took care of us when we were disgusting and unruly, they also taught us a lot of the most important lessons we’ve ever learned.

We will never be able to repay our mothers, but at the very least we can say thank you every once and a while.

So this is an ode to the lessons our mothers have taught us, and a thank you note to all the amazing mothers out there.

We are born of love; love is our mother.
-Rumi

Sharing Is Caring

I grew up in a male dominated house. Needless to say, the boys of the house wanted to solve every conflict aggressively and had a hard time sharing anything. Whether it was time on the computer, toys, or treats, we wanted everything to ourselves.

But mothers will always step in and set it straight. She showed us the value of sharing our things, and thus our happiness, with others.

She also taught us this lesson through her everyday life. I frequently saw my mother pay for strangers, offer to pay for everyone in our group, and give presents at every opportunity.

She taught us that money comes and goes, but the impact that a small gesture can have on someone will last forever.

Give Everyone A Fair Shake

No matter who you were, if you came into contact with my mother she would give you the benefit of the doubt.

If everyone in the world was like this there would be no more sexism, racism, or any other of the prejudice diseases that plague humanity. When you treat each person as an individual and assume only the best of them—until they prove otherwise—you make the world a fairer place.

The media will try to convince you of a whole myriad of ignorant stereotypes, but the lessons from our mothers will always outweigh them and for that I am grateful.

Because of our mothers we know that each person is unique and deserves a fair chance.

Don’t Let The Opinions Of Others Affect You

My mother is a bus driver. She has told me many horror stories and she has been called every name in the book.

She’s been put down or attacked so many times that you’d lose count, but she never let the opinions of others affect her opinion of herself.

Sometimes it would get to her, but seeing the strength and determination that she mustered up during those moments was inspiring.

I learned that other people can only affect you as much as you let them affect you and this is one of the most important lessons a person can learn.

When I think of the mothers of the world I think about determination, unconditional love, overcoming obstacles, and doing things you never thought you’d do because you love that little life more than anything in the whole world.

Raising you was the hardest thing someone ever had to do in their entire life. So today, take the time to thank them. This is for all the mothers out there.

I love you mum. Thank for putting up with all the poop, the pee, the aggression, the rebellion, the shortcomings and the times I didn’t appreciate you like I should have.

I’ve finally learned my lessons.

What are some of the lessons that your mother taught you? Leave them in the comments!

A Pillar in Success

Personally, I used to always struggle with confidence. I do not want to make it seem like I’m complaining about my past, so I shall spare all the spicy details.

Long story short, I struggled with confidence. I am still infected with this ‘disease’ (because that is what IT really is), but not as frequently or severely.

There are two forms of confidence, outer and inner. Outer confidence comes from material items such as money, cars, clothes, etc. These are superficial, in my opinion. Inner confidence comes from within. It encompasses everything you are and are proud of.

Building inner confidence is a fundamental pillar in the structure we call life. Here is how I started to build inner confidence. Try it, it may work for you as well.

1) Don’t Be Afraid to Fail

Everyone is afraid of failing. I am guilty, I’ll be the first to admit it. But I feel like you have to fail, a lot, to really understand inner confidence. Confidence has to be built through failure.

Through failure you learn where your strengths and weaknesses lie. You learn how to approach the situation differently. You learn how to improve, develop and progress.

You need to fail. It is an important process in the struggle to succeed. Don’t be afraid of it. Embrace it and fail a lot. Then, learn. Learn how to overcome and improve.

Everything is an experience and there is no getting worse. It is built in our genetic code, the more we do something, the better we get. It is a basic repetition principle. Through failing you improve AND build inner confidence, all wrapped in one neat little ball.

2) Be Yourself

Too many people are afraid to be themselves. We all put up walls to hide our true selves. We all keep the ‘embarrassing’ areas of our lives for a select few.

“Be yourself” gets thrown around too loosely these days. When I say “be yourself,” I mean to the extreme. Don’t be afraid to express yourself to everybody around you.

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Would you rather have safe interactions with everyone who ‘like’ you as an acquaintance or would you rather be polarizing and have some people dislike and some people who absolutely love you.

Be genuine and be you. You are amazing the way you are. You may like constructing ships in bottles or the Backstreet Boys or baton twirling. You may find that embarrassing, but guess what?

That’s you! You love it. Show others that you love it! Weed out the people that don’t love it and embrace the ones that do.

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind” – Dr. Seuss

3) Don’t give a shit 

Live your life how you want to. Don’t try to live up to anyone else’s rules or the rules of society. They are only there to smush (is that a word?) you in a little cookie cutter. More often than not, most people do not fit in that cookie cutter and feel terrible about it.

The key to not fitting in is to just not fit in. When I was a kid, I used to smush (I’m going to use it anyways) Lego blocks together. I learned very fast that certain blocks do not work well with each other. ss_lego_by_forteallegretto-d3cxjjw

Be that block. Be different. If you want to wear a fuzzy pink and yellow zebra sweater, wear it. If you want to go outside and yell or let loose sometimes, just do it. You need to challenge yourself sometimes to grow.

Inner confidence is the clinch pin to success, fostering relationships and everything else in between.

What do you think about confidence? If you have any tips/tricks on building confidence that have worked for you, please comment below. I would love to hear from you. Till next time readers!

Be bold, be free, and love on.