I once watched a woman on Maury who was terrified of cotton balls. She would dream of a giant cotton ball man murdering her most nights.
She was so terrified that she hardly left the house. She succumbed to the fear and it consumed her entire life.
We all have fears. Some of us are terrified of spiders or heights and some fears are more rational than others.
My main fear is failure. I’m afraid of disappointing others, failing to accomplish my dreams and goals, and failing myself.
Failure will inevitably destroy us if we allow it. It has the power to paralyze our bodies and leave us broken and sedentary.
It makes us tremble, keeps us from leaping into new experiences and challenges. It debilitates our growth process and hinders our ability to learn.
These are my fears, and maybe if you experience the same ones, we can learn from them together.
A) Failure as a fellow human
Sometimes I am afraid that I am not enough for others. Sometimes I feel like I should do more, say more, and be more.
The thought of letting the people I love down feels soul crushing.
With this thought in the forefront of my mind, I aim to be more present, more appreciative and more loving.
Let us all aim to be stronger individuals towards others – friends, partners and strangers alike – and aim to impact each and every individual we encounter in a wholly positive manner.
B) Failure to pursue my passion
Sometimes I am afraid that I will never reach my goals. While these moments are seldom, they come rushing and almost overcome my entire being.
The thought of not reaching my potential feels soul crushing.
With this thought in the forefront of my mind, I aim to work harder, smarter and use my time wisely. We should never compromise our passion and life to pursue work that does not truly make us happy.
Let us all aim to pursue our passions, so our work-life and passions become intertwined into one sole entity.
Our energy and life is limited. Why should we spend one single moment not being completely content in our work life?
C) Failure as myself
Sometimes I am afraid that I will never be truly enough for myself. Sometimes insecurities resurface and it can be hard to wrap my head around it.
The thought of succumbing to my insecurities feels soul crushing.
With this thought in the forefront of my mind, I aim to battle the insecurities head on. Work through them one by one and leave them broken and battered on the floor.
Let us all cast away our insecurities in the successful attempt to grow into the strongest version of ourselves. Everyone has insecurities that resurface from time-to-time, but let us never allow time to wallow in them.
Fear as a Stepping-Stone
As debilitating as fear can be, it is completely necessary for us to grow and progress. Fear is an astounding motivator. It is our worst enemy, but it can also be our best friend.
When my fears of failure resurface, there are only two options: succumb and wallow or fight and grow.
The latter is more appealing than the former. Without our fears, we would never truly understand where our weak points lie and what we must do in order to grow.
Even though the worst thing I can think of in life is failing others and myself, I am very grateful for all my fears. Without my fears, I would never truly understand the importance of presence, hard work, appreciativeness, passion and love.
However, while putting all this out in the universe, I wonder if there are others that fear the same things.
Or, maybe, all my fears are just as irrational as a giant cotton ball man murdering me.
Until next time, my beautiful readers,
Be bold, be free, and love on.
10 thoughts on “Our Fears Are A Double-Edged Sword”
Reblogged this on Sunflowers for Moira and commented:
“Sometimes I am afraid that I will never be truly enough for myself.” — Finally, someone managed to put that cold, shapeless shadow within me into words that I can read. Thank you for this.
Yes, we can interrupt the habit of falling into negative temptations of fears like failure by willingly embracing a positive thought like gratitude! That is courageously exercising self-compassion and helps us all!
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You are completely right! Gratitude is definitely a powerful force that we should harness more often!
Leroy, thank you for this post. You are not alone in your insecurities. I think most people try to over compensate for their insecurities and do not honor their true selves. Gratitude and compassion are wonderful for everyone even ourselves!
I’m afraid that I’m at times awake and aware and happy than those around me (strangers) most people are dead in the head, and don’t even know it.
I’ve heard an acronym for fear which I find useful: FEAR = False Evidence Acting Real. I notice most of my fears are never real, but imagined.
I needed to read this today. Right post at right time for me. Thank you.
you truly are inspiring! thank you for such wonderful posts
Reblogged this on In Destiny's Eyes and commented:
As I continue on my quest to be a better version of myself and renew my grove, I aim ,to conquer my fears. I hope you enjoy this post.
Life is full to the point of overflowing with fears of real things, of terrorism, of war and pain, of loss and mortality. To say that fear is an engine which drives us is to ignore the buffers at the end of the line, and close our eyes to the scenery which is rushing past. Failure is a meaningless word for a fear we invent for ourselves: we all have our place in humanity, and nothing more is required of us than we serve it according to our ability: we are cogs that make the world-wheel turn – we cannot fail at that.
‘Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself’.