I have a confession to make.
This is something that we often feel, but seldom say. It is an inevitable part of life and something that can be our greatest motivator or our greatest hindrance.
I am afraid.
I am moving out on Friday and whilst crunching financial figures and assessing the rest of my life, everything is overwhelming.
The adult world seems daunting. Until now, I have been able to lean on my parents for love and support. Now I have to chase it using my own two feet.
Thoughts encircle my head, weighing down my consciousness, feelings and, in turn, governing my actions.
What if I fail? What if I go broke? What if I can’t manage or cope? What if something bad happens?
I am afraid of it all.
However, inevitably, it is our choice to pursue a solitary path. One leads into a gloomy shadowed forest like something out of Lemony Snicket, while the other offers sunshine and rabbits, haphazardly prancing around lively shrubbery.
Feelings of insecurity are normal and should be welcomed. They possess the key to growth and, if we allow, can push us to the next phase of our lives. However, it can also paralyze us, until time itself eventually takes us.
The choice is ours.
Day-to-day, month-to-month and year-to-year, we are confronted with situations in which fear can take a firm grasp.
Maybe you want to start a business, but the fear of failure is overwhelming. Maybe you want to ask that person out, but you’re afraid of rejection. Maybe you want to quit your job, but you’re scared of the uncertain future.
I have realized in my short life that the feelings of fear, insecurity and uncertainty serve only one purpose – to push you, to challenge you and, inevitably, to grow you into the stronger version of yourself, mentally and physically.
When I am faced with a challenge, I have to take the leap – within sound reason.
The fear of failure, rejection and uncertainty pales in comparison when pondering the dreaded ‘what-if?’
Absolutely nothing can come from ‘what-if?’ There is no tangible answer to this question.
“You miss one hundred percent of the shots you don’t take.” – Wayne Gretzky
No matter how bad the outcome, know at the very least, you will still be alive.
Today and everyday, I implore you to face your demons, your fears, your uncertainties, and all the judgmental onlookers.
Face your challenges, hold your head high, and pursue the strongest version of yourself. Limit the possibility of asking ‘what-if’ because those dreaded words will eat you up from the inside, out.
I’ve acknowledged these feelings within myself. But, it feels relieving to finalize verbalize it. A sense of ease floods into my being when I put it out to the masses.
Here at 2HelpfulGuys we try our earnest to help each and everyone in need through our words, videos and books.
Today, my dear readers, you have helped me. From the deepest and warmest portion of my heart, thank you.
Till next time,
Be bold, be free, and love on.
I enjoyed your honesty. New ventures can be terrifying, but are necessary. In retrospect I am sure you will find the fears were easier to overcome. You will do just fine .
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Thank you for the little burst of energy. You’re right. I’m sure it isn’t as bad it seems. New phases in life should and will be welcomed always!
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Reblogged this on The wandering mind.
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Thank you so much for the reblog. I’m glad you enjoyed it. Also, I’m doubly glad you found enough value in it to share this with your audience! 🙂
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Sounds like an exciting upcoming phase in your life! Best of luck on your move!
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It is very exciting! Thank you for the wishes! 🙂
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Reblogged this on Altruistic Hedonism and commented:
Wonderful late night motivation. Shout out to the creators. Lovely, encouraging stuff 🙂
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Thank you so much for the reblog. I’m glad you enjoyed it. Also, I’m doubly glad you found enough value in it to share this with your audience! 🙂
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Thank you. It’s very helpful reading this post. I have certainly had my share of fear, insecurity and uncertainty, and I’m sure everyone has. I’m also certain that there will always be more to come. Reading this post gives me motivation to forge ahead in a positive way.
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I wish you all the best on your journey into independence. A great mantra for life whenever the doubts creep to the forefront is: Abundance flows to me. This raises you up attracting great friends, jobs, living conditions and so much more. Live life in FULL bloom and enjoy the ride.
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I love that. I have tried mantras before and it seemed to life my spirits! I’ve written that one down and posted it on my board above my desk! Thank you for the suggestion. Keep them coming! 🙂
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Glad you liked it Leroy!!!
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Keep his going please, great job!
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Thank you for all of your encouraging messages! Today I needed this I was feeling so down because I am face with the what ifs and the fear that I want accomplish my goals. I am a lot older then you and from what I read in your writing you are so far ahead of the game so trust me you will do very well. If I thought like you when i was very young my life would have been different. Love your blog and there are a lot of people who need this no matter what age. 🙂 I wish you all the best!
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I (we) are incredibly glad to help and uplift!
Don’t ever let age hinder your progress. I firmly believe that we are capable of anything up until the very moment we take our lasts breaths. Give yourself more credit for all your accomplishments and appreciate yourself wholly. The ‘what ifs’ are there to hinder you. Throw the ‘what if’ away and jump in feet first. That’s the only way we truly learn – through trying and failing and then, trying again.
Thomas Edison tried 10,000 times before figuring out the light-bulb. We should ALWAYS do the same.
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Good luck and good heart for your new challenge!
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