How To Escape From A Rut

I’ve been in a complete standstill for the last three weeks. I was stuck, unhappy and saw no end to it. But, today is the first day I actually feel ‘alive.’

I made a conscious decision to pick myself up by the bootstraps and start anew. I realized three things that pulled me out and, today, I started my day properly.

It begins with a change in perspective.

Realize that it will end

In the natural progression of life, standstills will happen. They will occur frequently and, perhaps, for extended periods of time. But realize this portion of your life is short-lived.

You will feel better, if you allow yourself to.

Life occurs in cycles. As sure as the seasons change from fall to winter, spring to summer, so will your ups and downs. At some point in your life, ruts will occur, but don’t wallow. Realize it and push through.

Use it to grow stronger

In my last article, I mentioned that every negative situation has a positive. Well, every bad stretch serves a purpose to your larger life.

This bad portion, for lack of better words, is bad. But treasure and notice the changes.

A stronger person is born out of ruts because you learn. You learn how to manage debilitative emotions, how to handle lack of progression, and how to pull yourself out.

Take this valuable knowledge and store it in your back pocket. When the next one occurs, you apply it and learn more, carrying little bits of knowledge throughout your entire life.

Actively search for solutions while you’re in this phase. Every rut has a silver lining. Explore it.

Have an end goal

I don’t know the exact reason for my rut. I woke up and felt different. This different feeling held on for the next three weeks. Maybe I let school or my relationships get to me.

Regardless of the reason, when I look forward, everything changes. In a few months, I’ll be done school and moving out. That is my end goal. This rut is a momentary.

Everything changes when I enter a new phase in my life and that excites me. It breathes new life into my lungs.

Have a goal solidified in your head. Keep the image strong and push toward it. Through your rut, hold it firm and be steadfast. Goals are important to give you that little extra nudge.

Ruts will occur. It keeps life different and interesting. If we didn’t have them, we would probably complain about a mundane life. If we didn’t have them, we wouldn’t be able to cope.

And, worst of all, we wouldn’t grow as a person. Growth is the central purpose in life. Through ruts, we become stronger, happier and more fulfilled.

We can learn a lot from them. So don’t toil and wallow. Stop, learn and progress.

Be bold, be free and love on.

Man Sitting In Valley

28 thoughts on “How To Escape From A Rut

  1. Never underestimate the power of a decision in managing mood and personal well being. I have had ruts just like yours. For me, and I think many others, it is the decision to “pull yourself up” that is the beginning of the end of the down cycle. Once we get behind a decision all manner of things occur to help bring it to reality.

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    1. Thank you so much for the reblog! I’m glad you enjoyed it enough to share it with your audience! We really really appreciate your support! 🙂

      Great additions as well! Can I have permission to steal your idea of “Happiness is a State of mind?” I could write an article on that!

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  2. This post could not have come at a better time for me! I am currently in a rut myself and I feel like I just need a break from life for a day or so… But seeing as that is impossible I have to remember to push on and get myself out of it. Thank you for writing this!

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    1. Sometimes a break is all you need. Sometimes, my body and brain is just exhausted and a step back is all it really needs. I encourage you to take some time (even a few minutes), step back and asking yourself, “how am I feeling right now.” Next, ask yourself, “why am I feeling this way?” Sometimes all you need to do is consciously identify the problem, instead of leaving them to background functions. I know you can and will get out of this rut! Be strong!

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  3. Reblogged this on The Sunny C and commented:
    Hello everyone!

    I have been in a rut for a couple weeks now (hence I have not written anything). I have no motivation to do anything more than my homework lately and to be quite honest it sucks!

    Last week I was hoping to pull myself out of it but then my rabbit passed away and it made me spiral even deeper into my rut. Now, some might say it is just a rabbit, but to me she was part of my family. She was my responsibility and I loved her very much and it hurt me very much when she died.

    That being said I have been moping around and when I stumbled upon this article it has given me hope. It has sparked something inside me. It is a great read even if you are not currently in a rut because let’s face it, we’ve all been there at one point or another.

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    1. Homework always drains my creativity and writing as well! Problem is, I love writing with the exception of school. It really sucks. But I’ve learned to manage it. Try to write everyday for leisure purposes! You have to make time for the important things in your life.

      I’m sorry you lost your rabbit. It is hard when you lose someone you care about. There isn’t much consolation I can provide. However, I can say from personal experience, that everything does get better. I know you can and will pull through!

      Lastly, thank you so much for the reblog! I’m glad you enjoyed it enough to share it with your audience! We really really appreciate your support! 🙂

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  4. Very nice. I enjoyed reading this because I also experience ruts from time to time and they can be really confusing (ie. just when you thought things were sailing along smoothly) and frustrating. What I have also noticed on the other side is that they were necessary, like a tiny birthing of myself into a new expanded vision of a bigger life. I think your emphasis on awareness of what is happening is definitely how we benefit from these moments. Thank you for posting this.

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    1. I have to completely agree with you! You mentioned “when you think you’re sailing smooth.” I like that because I think it’s a shift in perspective sometimes that triggers the rut. Sometimes a rut happens it just needs to be accepted for what it is. It’s momentary. Use it to learn and progress. They are there to elevate you to a higher level of physical and emotional awareness. Thank you so much for your comment! I loved it! 🙂

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  5. I had faced those moments. I definitely knew how was it and I’m able to recall it clearly but surprisingly those moments are the one who made me stronger and stronger. Thank you for sharing it.

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  6. I really needed this. Thank you so much for posting!

    But I do have a question… What if the only end game you have could be decades in the future? How does one hold on that long?

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    1. I’m glad I could help! If the only end game is decades in the future, then that’s okay. Try not to worry so longterm. Just live moment to moment, day by day. Eventually that future will come. The funny thing about the future is that it never actually exists. Time is just a continuous series of ‘nows’ Don’t think of it as holding out forever, instead change your perspective.

      Work everyday towards the endgame. Have the large picture in mind, but don’t focus on it. Work everyday, little by little and you’ll make it. When you start to imagine the distant future as a long time, it becomes to tasking. Just focus on dealing with now.

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