Turn a Negative into a Positive

Can we have a moment of silence for my fallen headphones? I jumped on the treadmill; my headphones got snagged and snapped.

For the next half hour I wallowed. Ugh, I spent $40 for those. Now I have to go and get a new pair. My entire workout was ruined.

I made a conscious decision to let it ruin my workout. I allowed broken headphones to affect me. I chose to perceive the situation as wholly negative and submersed myself in turmoil.

After wallowing, I remembered some advice Steven gave me: Don’t sweat the little things. They are insignificant in the big picture. 

Don’t let it ruin your happiness

Today, a friend complained that she was having the worst day ever because she missed her bus.

She caught the next bus and made it to school. Was it really worth letting her entire day get ruined? It made me think about my fallen headphones.

Was I really going to let $40 and the errand of getting new ones ruin the entirety of my day? Steven is right, in the big picture, it is very insignificant.

In the big picture, she caught the next bus. She made it. She’s here now. She should leave that ill feeling in the past. Instead, she carried it with her like a ball and chain, weighing her down, slowly draining her happiness.

People let insignificant problems ruin their minutes, hours, and days. The first little problem surfaces, the effect snowballs, then suddenly you’re lost in the ‘worst day ever’ syndrome.

As you progressively become grouchier, it could snowball to the next day. You make the conscious decision to grumble and scowl. People around you notice and avoid you.

Your relationships are affected. Your work is affected. But worst of all, your mind is affected. Happiness begins to feel like a distant memory – all over headphones, a missed bus or whatever other small problem is weighing you.

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Is there a Bright-side?

I believe that every situation has a positive and a negative. Some positives are harder to see in the darkness of a problem, but it is there. It’s a tiny glimmering light, just waiting to be discovered.

My broken headphones did impact my day, but for the positive. I chose to be more social. I was able to listen to people and engage with them.

I made a friend. I helped someone in need. I gave a compliment to random stranger. Three positive outcomes over a problem that could have been day-ruining.

If I had seen the negatives and scowled, could I have made a new friend or helped someone? Could I have made someones’ day through my words? Possibly, but I wouldn’t receive the same effect. It would have been cast away and overshadowed by my miserable mindset.

In our daily lives, small problems continually erupt. Sometimes we let our brain take over, and we make large out of the miniscule.

The odd time when we do encounter a large problem, it’s okay to feel down for a little while. It’s therapeutic but after that, pull yourself out and start figuring out a solution. Start looking for that little glimmering light.

Next time you encounter a problem, place it in the bigger picture. Change your perspective to change the way you perceive problems.

You possess the sole authority. You are the general, captain and private of your mind. Consciously choose happiness, consciously choose positivity and constantly seek that little glimmering light.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

40 thoughts on “Turn a Negative into a Positive

  1. Some really great advice! I often fall into that ‘Something bad happened therefore It’s going to be a bad day’ trap! When in reality, that doesn’t have to be the case at all.

    Thank you for a fresh perspective 🙂

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  2. On the rare occasions when I work out, I use the ear-buds that came with my iPhone. If those break, get lost, get wrecked, I’ll use the ear-buds that came with my iPad when I work out. The Beatz by Dr. Dre headphones that I paid too much money for, that are wireless, noise-canceling, & blue tooth compatible, those are far too valuable to use while working out. Those are for when I’m at my mother’s house and she’s on a rant about some goddamn thing I most assuredly never want to hear about.

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  3. I decided years ago I could wallow around in a pity party of one, or I could laugh it off and turn it into a joke. I discovered that laughing it off, blogging about it, and making other people join in my laughter has brought me closer to family and friends, so now when I drop the dozen eggs on the floor I make a joke about it. Same thing with the casserole I pull out of the oven that hits the floor instead of the counter. I have advanced MS, it’s not going away, it won’t get better, so I have to find a way to live with it, and let everyone know it w

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    1. I’m so sorry to hear about your MS. But your perspective and outlook is truly inspirational. I can see, that you won’t let these little things get you down. I can see that your a stronger person than I am, and well, most people. You choose positivity and laughter over self-pity. That’s truly remarkable.

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  4. Just lost a wonderful reply somewhere out there. Typical. That’s okay though, it gives me something to laugh about. I like your post today. As long as people look on the bright side of a situation they will be okay. And everything has a bright side. You could have lost an ear in that accident. You didn’t, just some ear phones. I dropped a dozen eggs, so I made an omelet with the ones that were only cracked. The rest had to be scooped up from the floor, but what the heck. The cat enjoyed them. Just start laughing it all off and you will lead a happy life.

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    1. Even that’s okay! These things happen almost constantly. I think it’s what keeps life interesting and different. If these little things didn’t happen, we might complain that life is too plain jane. Find that happiness and laughter in every situation. Every situation has a silver lining!

      Again, you have a ridiculously inspiring outlook on life. I hope that one day, I will have the same! Laughter is truly the best medicine. You have done a great job of reminding me of that.

      So from the bottom of my heart, thank you. Thank you for not only your thoughtful comment, but your inspirational words. They have helped at least one person here today, me.

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    1. EXACTLY! Get yourself a new keyboard or use this one. Either way, the problem is so insignificant. You can choose to let this affect you, but at what cost? “Life is too short to have it ruin your day.” I love that line.

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  5. I try not to weigh others down with my problems, by the same token I try not to let there problems weigh me down. Instead I try to help them up. Get them to look up on the issue, if they don’t see it then it is there problem in the end.

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    1. That’s completely true. You can’t let other peoples’ problems weigh you down. Be a listener and a helper, but never let it affect you. There are positive in every situation. If you can help another out with their problem by helping them see that little light, then you have done your job!

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  6. Negative feedback at work is painful. It might make you angry or frightened–but if you’re able to turn it into a positive thing, the negative feedback can actually be your key to success.

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    1. Exactly, even constructive criticism can be misconstrued as negative if your view it through a pessimistic lens. Take everything with an open ear and heart, and you will continue to push forward and grow stronger!

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  7. Oh… This was a wonderful read and well needed today. I had my Bluetooth fried by my little one, who likes to dunk things in water right now. I turned for a second, and… Gone. It is good to remember that in the big picture, it doesn’t matter, and it is good to focus on the good that comes from the negative little things. Thank you for sharing.

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    1. Oh my! Children are mischievous by nature! I think it’s because they are naturally curious, but don’t quite understand the consequences. Kinda like, what would happen if I stuck this metal fork in the outlet. Curiosity did, in fact, kill the cat!

      But yes, no matter what, always look at the bigger picture. There are positives everywhere if you just stop and stare.

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  8. Use your imagination to time travel ten years into the future. Now look back to this day where you missed a bus/failed na exam/broke your headphones. Does it even matter? Did it impact your life at all?

    If the answer is no, then soon you won’t even remember it happening so it’s only natural to let go, look on a bright side and just smile.

    On the other hand if you have had a life changing or traumatic event, it’s not suitable and in many cases not even possible to let go and just smile. That’s when you should let yourself feel whatever you are feeling. Feel bad, feel sorry, cry, scream. We all react differently so there is no *right* or *wrong* there.
    Once the dark clouds clear out and you feel stable again, that’s the time to be positive and choose right for yourself. That’s when you should look on the bright side, pick yourself up and move on forward.

    Great post! Keep ’em coming!

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    1. I love the ten year rule! It’s so powerful for putting things into perspective! The answer is almost always no which really makes any problem completely and utterly insignificant in the grand scheme of life!

      I do have to agree with the traumatic event portion of your comment. You have to kind let it settle within yourself and feel the feelings that you want to feel. I think when you try to smile when you should be crying, it’s unhealthy. Don’t push emotions down. Acknowledge them, feel them, but after a certain amount of time (dictated by you alone), let go of them and push forward to a stronger version of yourself. As you mentioned, you will feel stable again. I think life has these ups and downs for one main reason – to help you learn, become stronger and deal with bigger problems in the future.

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  9. I noticed you said you allowed the broken headphones to ruin your workout, but………unless I missed something, you DID still workout correct? See, there’s your first positive! You didn’t let the headphones keep you from doing something you obviously enjoy doing – working out. I always tell my kids, “Find the positive in each and every day. It doesn’t have to be big. Just anything positive. That can be something as small as that first cup of coffee in the morning tasting so incredibly great, or a flower blooming on the side of the road. Anything!” It is hard work to find positives out of a day that starts off lousy, but they are there. You just have to look for them. My favorite positive quote is by Ralph Waldo Emerson: ​”Don’t follow where the path may lead…..go where there is no path and leave a trail.”

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    1. Exactly! I love this comment so much! ANYTHING has a positive. It can even be something small or insignificant. But as soon as you start finding them, you start the practice of finding more. Eventually, all you see is the positive, and that’s an amazing perspective to have towards life. As you said, it can be so so small. You have taught your kids a great lesson! Keep raising them well. We need more people like you! 🙂

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