Here at 2HelpfulGuys we cut through distractions, remove illusions and get right to the heart of the subjects that will allow us all to grow to our fullest potential.
In our 130 articles we’ve explored many topics including becoming more confident, pushing through obstacles, changing your daily habits and designing your dream life, to even just getting through a bad day.
Although, it isn’t to often that we discuss how the 2HelpfulGuys operate together to create this optimal environment for our constant growth.
In this article I hope to show you the types of qualities you should look for in your relationships, friendships, and business partnerships. No one can do everything alone, and having the right people around you can be the deciding factor in whether or not you lead a happy and successful life.
Today, I am going to pull back the curtains and discuss my friendship and business partnership with my fellow HelpfulGuy: Leroy Milton.
Strengths And Weaknesses
Leroy and I met as coworkers at a grocery store when we were 16 or 17. Back then we were completely different people. He was reserved and shy, I was over-the-top outgoing.
He was a moral person who treated people with respect, he didn’t let things get to him very easily and always seemed happy. It is embarrassing to admit, but I was not a moral person at all.
Every one thought I was, but I lied a lot and didn’t feel much empathy towards other people. This was especially a problem in relationships, I would cheat and lie constantly. It’s not something I’m proud of.
Over the course of our friendship we learned a lot from our respective strengths.
I exposed Leroy to a lot of ideas and perspectives that he had never experienced before. I remember him saying at one point “I didn’t know people like you existed!” He became more outgoing and confident around me. One of my most cherished memories was when he said “I don’t worry about saying whatever joke is on my mind because when you’re around, I know i’ll get at least one laugh.”
He showed me what it is like to be a good person and how good it feels to be able to respect yourself.
I had ideas and knowledge, but I barely knew how to accomplish the most basic of tasks. He taught me so many life skills: Cleaning, working out, motivating yourself to accomplish things, cooking, and the list goes on and on.
But this isn’t just a feel good story.
Within everyone you meet, you will find that they have strengths and weaknesses. You can learn to emulate their strengths, and learn from their weaknesses.
Lifting You Up
The second quality you should be looking for in any of your relationships is support.
Whether you know it or not, we are all impressionable to a degree. The people you see most often have a great impact on your view of the world, and yourself.
If you keep people around you that doubt your abilities and put you down, their thinking will infect you. If you have people around you that encourage and support you, you will be able to bounce back from anything much faster.
Leroy and I have been through some rough times throughout our friendship. At times where I’ve felt like there is no hope left, he has been there to help me.
We can’t always be happy, or even stable, but if we can lean on the people around us we will never fall.
Respecting Boundaries And Rules
This is a big one. No matter how good a person is or how close you are, if they can’t respect your boundaries then it won’t work out.
One of the reasons that Leroy and I never argue is that accept each others lines in the sand.
An example of this is “The Box.”
Whenever there is someone or something that one of us doesn’t want to talk about, all we say is “Let’s just put it in the box.” and after that it is never mentioned again.
The best way to ensure a long lasting friendship or business partnership is to respect each others boundaries over all else. Even one step over the line can taint a relationship for good.
Leroy and I have been friends for a long time and I’ve learned a lot about friendship. I’m not saying that if you look for these qualities in a person that all problems will disappear, but with these qualities you can be assured that you will make it through any obstacles that come your way.
Our relationships with the people around us shapes us so much more than we can comprehend. I hope that you take a look at the relationships in your life and ask yourself if they are the quality you deserve.
What other qualities can you think of that foster amazing relationships?
Discuss in the comments below!