How The HelpfulGuys Help Each Other

Here at 2HelpfulGuys we cut through distractions, remove illusions and get right to the heart of the subjects that will allow us all to grow to our fullest potential.

In our 130 articles we’ve explored many topics including becoming more confident, pushing through obstacles, changing your daily habits and designing your dream life, to even just getting through a bad day.

Although, it isn’t to often that we discuss how the 2HelpfulGuys operate together to create this optimal environment for our constant growth.

In this article I hope to show you the types of qualities you should look for in your relationships, friendships, and business partnerships. No one can do everything alone, and having the right people around you can be the deciding factor in whether or not you lead a happy and successful life.

Today, I am going to pull back the curtains and discuss my friendship and business partnership with my fellow HelpfulGuy: Leroy Milton.

Strengths And Weaknesses

Leroy and I met as coworkers at a grocery store when we were 16 or 17. Back then we were completely different people. He was reserved and shy, I was over-the-top outgoing.

He was a moral person who treated people with respect, he didn’t let things get to him very easily and always seemed happy. It is embarrassing to admit, but I was not a moral person at all.

Every one thought I was, but I lied a lot and didn’t feel much empathy towards other people. This was especially a problem in relationships, I would cheat and lie constantly. It’s not something I’m proud of.

Over the course of our friendship we learned a lot from our respective strengths.

I exposed Leroy to a lot of ideas and perspectives that he had never experienced before. I remember him saying at one point “I didn’t know people like you existed!”ย He became more outgoing and confident around me. One of my most cherished memories was when he said “I don’t worry about saying whatever joke is on my mind because when you’re around, I know i’ll get at least one laugh.”

He showed me what it is like to be a good person and how good it feels to be able to respect yourself.

I had ideas and knowledge, but I barely knew how to accomplish the most basic of tasks. He taught me so many life skills: Cleaning, working out, motivating yourself to accomplish things, cooking, and the list goes on and on.

But this isn’t just a feel good story.

Within everyone you meet, you will find that they have strengths and weaknesses. You can learn to emulate their strengths, and learn from their weaknesses.

Lifting You Up

The second quality you should be looking for in any of your relationships is support.

Whether you know it or not, we are all impressionable to a degree. The people you see most often have a great impact on your view of the world, and yourself.

If you keep people around you that doubt your abilities and put you down, their thinking will infect you. If you have people around you that encourage and support you, you will be able to bounce back from anything much faster.

Leroy and I have been through some rough times throughout our friendship. At times where I’ve felt like there is no hope left, he has been there to help me.

We can’t always be happy, or even stable, but if we can lean on the people around us we will never fall.

Respecting Boundaries And Rules

This is a big one. No matter how good a person is or how close you are, if they can’t respect your boundaries then it won’t work out.

One of the reasons that Leroy and I never argue is that accept each others lines in the sand.

An example of this is “The Box.”

Whenever there is someone or something that one of us doesn’t want to talk about, all we say is “Let’s just put it in the box.” and after that it is never mentioned again.

The best way to ensure a long lasting friendship or business partnership is to respect each others boundaries over all else. Even one step over the line can taint a relationship for good.

Leroy and I have been friends for a long time and I’ve learned a lot about friendship. I’m not saying that if you look for these qualities in a person that all problems will disappear, but with these qualities you can be assured that you will make it through any obstacles that come your way.

Our relationships with the people around us shapes us so much more than we can comprehend. I hope that you take a look at the relationships in your life and ask yourself if they are the quality you deserve.

What other qualities can you think of that foster amazing relationships?
Discuss in the comments below!


18 thoughts on “How The HelpfulGuys Help Each Other

  1. Honesty is right up there as well as support, my friends must be able to tell me when I’m in the wrong, just because were friends doesn’t mean we should enable bad behaviour., this goes hand in hand with respect for each other and knowing it’s all coming from a good place.

    Another factor is maintenence, you have to keep up with the friendship, even if it’s just a phone call once a week, for me you can never be too busy to reach out.

    Friendships are often tested in a myriad of ways, which comes down to communication, and if you can’t do that, then you don’t really have a friendship, as you say you can put it a box, draw a line underneath and move on together.

    As friends you can be as different as chalk and cheese, but remember there are commonalities that draws you to the other and within that you can strike a balance.

    Lastly you have to look at your circle, and who is nourishing you and who is toxic, not any easy choice to make, but if you want healthy relationships you have to rid yourself of what isn’t doing you any good.

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    1. I definitely agree with you honesty is so important, as well as communication.

      Maintaining a friendship can help it last a long time without losing touch completely. It’s good that we have the technology these days to call people, e-mail them and even see them through Skype. It makes it a lot easy to maintain friendships.

      And yeah, sometimes you have to look around you and take stock of who is good for you and who isn’t. I’ve had to do that in the past and it can be painful, but necessary.

      Thanks for sharing your insight. You had some really good points!

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  2. I’m having one of these problems at the moment and to be honest, this article has given me a wake up call.

    And you are right about personal spaces; I just wish everyone can take it on.

    Keep up the good work. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. I have a question for you… as far as wordpress goes, do you know if we are aloud to add a ‘donations /support’ widget (button) I was hoping I could put my blog to good use and see if I could get donations to be able to send one to my favorite charity if I get enough


  3. Thanks for sharing! Once again you guys have come through with a post I really needed to read. I’m currently in a fight with one of my closest friends, and it’s all because she wouldn’t respect my boundaries. Now I’m looking back at the years of our friendship and realizing how maybe we just really weren’t meant to be friends.


    1. Boundaries are a very important part of any relationship. If someone can’t respect the basic boundaries you set then it shows that they don’t necessarily respect you. I hope this has helped you see your fight from a different perspective!


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