Two Little Letters That WILL Change Your Life

Today is my third day of the last semester of my school career. If you have been with us since the beginning, you know of my complete disdain for school.

You’ve probably read some of our earlier articles on perseverance and living for yourself. With the culmination of school becoming an approaching reality, my body is becoming more energized, happier, and fulfilled.

Finally I can pursue my dreams, my goals and my aspirations.

The last four years have felt like someone has been controlling my life. I feel like a helpless puppet, played with and strung along this path. I’m not pointing fingers, but I am here because someone insisted I get an education.

Maybe you don’t want to go to school, but someone is forcing you

In the ever-changing world, school has become less of a requirement. Unless you hope to become a doctor or lawyer, school is becoming increasingly pointless.

But they keep forcing their opinions on you. They keep insisting you get a quality education, but shrug the horrendous amount of debt that looms over your head.

Maybe you want to leave your job, but you feel obligated to stay

You have obligations to your co-workers, family and friends. They are controlling you, keeping you in the same place, demanding your attention and valuable life.

Because of your obligations, you can’t see a way out. You decide to stay, despite your better judgment, living someone else’s expectations for your life. You feel trapped in the same place, stuck for perpetuity.

Maybe you want to learn something, but people beat you down

You crave a new skill, but people say, ‘That’s a far-fetched idea. You’ll never make it.’ You absorb this negative feedback and internalize it.

You give up your zest for learning or trying because others have said you couldn’t do it. Before long, you’re stuck, again, in your cyclical life.

When I wanted to learn politics, I faced opposition from all sides. I wanted to change the world positively. Most people told me I was crazy, that it would never work. I gave up.

The Solution is a Powerful Two-Letter Word

The word no is one of the simplest words in the English language, but it possesses significant power. We don’t exercise no as often as we’d like. We might disappoint people.

But your sanity and life depends on those two little letters. When you say yes to someone, you inherit all of their expectations, requirements and burdens. We can’t solve all the problems of the world without taking care of ourselves first.

Say no when someone thinks they know you better than you. Say no to people who feel like school is the best decision for your life.

Of course, we have those obligations to our families. But say no, by finding another solution while you’re in your current job. Say no to the slavery of your 9-5 if it doesn’t satisfy you. Seek solutions.

Say no to negative people and dream crushers. Say no to people that think you’re crazy, stupid, or foolhardy.

Maybe if I rejected all the dream-crushers during my political phase, I could have changed the world. But I gave up because I forgot to say no. But, then again, I’m trying to change the world now. This time, in a different way.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

68 thoughts on “Two Little Letters That WILL Change Your Life

  1. This is very true, I am the kind of person who thinks that life is short, and we have to live for ourselves. Life is a gift! If something doesn’t feel right, take a step back and recognize what is going on. We have a lot of choice, but we have to take advantage. Very inspirational, thank you!

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    1. You’re very right in your way of thinking. Life is too precious to be wasting it on unwanted people and activities. You have to live for yourself before anything else can be changed around you. You have to be intrinsically happy, before you can preach and spread happiness.

      We have so much choice, but we decide to squander it, because we’re afraid of saying no. I’m glad you enjoyed the article. Hopefully, you’ve taken a little something that will help you along your path! 🙂

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  2. I’ve definitely felt some of these emotions when it comes to school. I am a huge education nut – I love learning and earning a degree and feeling knowledgeable. But the system has got to change. I’m in a class right now that is required but is wayyyy below my education level; I paid $2000 for it! We pay exorbitant fees to take classes we don’t need. I hope one day students will be able to tailor their educations in a way that is both cost-effective, less time-consuming, and really prepares them for the paths they choose.

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    1. I love education and learning, but I have a serious problem with formal education. Mostly, as you mentioned, because of the cost. But, also, because of the quality. Standards have diminished, while costs have skyrocketed. School is treated like a business, instead of an institution that is supposed to impact the world. I could get greater knowledge and applicable skills on the internet through: Khan Academy or MIT OpencourseWare for example, but minus the $30,000 piece of paper.

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  3. I fully agree. It took me 40 years to figure that one out. I assume you are younger than I am because you are still in school. So good for you for coming to this realization so early. I wish you all the success in the world!!

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    1. Honestly, I believe, it is never too late to learn ANYTHING. Be grateful you learned it in forty years. Some people never have that realization, despite encountering ‘no’ situations on a regular basis. Thank you for your kind sentiments! I’m glad you enjoyed the article enough to post a comment! 🙂

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  4. I definitely need to work on saying “no” more often. I have things in my life I need to go after, but the fear of letting others down keeps me from going after what I really want. I realize that I’m focusing on what others want, not what I want. I’m glad I’m not the only one who struggles with this.

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    1. You’re definitely not the only one that struggles with this. In fact, the majority of people do! But you can change with those two little letters. Through those, you can take back your power and life-force. You can live for yourself and be the master of your own destiny. Say no to your fears, and say no to terrible people producing your fears.

      Keep practicing it and it will get easier and easier!

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  5. you will likely have 5 careers before you stop – some in the same industry or company, but doing very different roles. Be prepared to attend classes, and learn for the rest of your life. Once you stop… you punch your ticket toward obsolescence.

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    1. I completely agree with your comment! I invite all and every change. Use it as a stepping stone to progress further and keep learning. Keep pushing forward, and keep changing. The cycle itself is cyclical till you find happiness, I think.

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  6. Thanks for liking my blog guys. And, about saying ‘no’, it’s something some people don’t learn until a lot is lost. Call it out of fear of rejection or upsetting others.

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  7. How about some unasked for advice from Grammy? It’s your life, the only one you will ever get. Live it for yourself, but also live for others. Be nice. I’m sure you will hate that word, but try it. Have a smile for the people you will meet along your way. Be nice to old people. Yeah, we’ve outlived our purpose in life, but we are still here for some reason, and some day you will be old too. Don’t ever forget that when an old person is in front of you, slowing you down. Take that time to look around you, really look. Notice the world as it is. Look at the grass, because it may not be there 50 years from now. Smell a flower. They are dying along with our planet. They can’t live in an atmosphere that is so polluted there is no clean air, no clean water. The trees are dying. Remember what they look like so you can tell your grandchildren. Plant something and take care of it, so you can keep a bit of earth alive for another year. And never forget to dream, and follow those dreams into your future.

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    1. ALL GREAT ADVICE. Thank you so much for taking the time to contribute to our community. I know my readers will benefit as much as I did from all these little tidbits of wisdom!

      Thank you so much again. I hope you continue to contribute your wise words!

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    1. I love learning and knowledge, but in my opinion, the way school is run is terrible. It’s less of a institution that is responsible for the future knowledge of the generation and more of a business. This holds true for at least my university.

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      1. I couldnt agree more! It starts in elementary grades and goes on. As a former homeschool parent (out of necessity). This became even more evident. Souch time wasted to keep youth locked in the walls. They should be able to tailor their Education more to their needs as a homeshooler we were able to do that. ( homeschool is not a good fit for everyone) yet the freedom of learning styles many choose is. Like waiting to start formal education.
        Many ate now even doind college at home due to the things you’ve mentioned thanks to online courses.
        ( yet many are very dumb downed and overpriced.)
        Any way thanks for a great post and discussion.

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      2. Exactly. The problem is that the individual in the school system disappears. Every child is put in this box and is forced to conform to standardized education. We’re taught to color inside in the lines, when true creativity flourishes with abstract designs. We’re taught the same things and forced to suppress our natural talents and interests. Home-schooling is the amazing option, but even that has it’s flaws. For one, single parent incomes are not a livable option anymore for most people. It’s a sad state, but it is what it is.

        The best way is to cultivate your interests and child’s interests outside of the school system every single day. Little ripples makes tidal waves.

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      3. Hi, ive been away … i agree mostly except the single parent incomes…I know many who are. It’s all about lifestyle choices… the boats, the cars, the vacations, etc etc. just like those who took out loans on their houses a few back. Just had this discussion with friends. 🙂 Thanks again for the post and convo 🙂

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      4. You are right about the lifestyle choices, but at the very same time, there are a lot of people well below the poverty level, scraping by on two incomes. I don’t know where you live, but I live in Canada, but the majority of my poverty knowledge is based in the U.S.

        Within that context, the poverty and the economic disconnect between the rich and poor is huge! Many families do scrape by and have very little room for lavish lives. Also, I will never buy a house unless I could put the full amount of money down on it! I think mortgages are a huge huge scam!

        Anytime! I love commenters and convos! 🙂

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  8. I can say without reservation that the biggest waste I’ve experienced in my life was the pursuit of my education. I possess thre degrees; the final one being an MBA. Not one of my degrees has ben particularly useful in real life; I’ve learned far-far more from my own independent reading and trail and error on the job than from school. Education at universities is the bigest lie we tell kids in America. And it’s an easy way to rack up huge debts.

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    1. I completely agree with your comment! School has become a norm in modern society and has it’s effectiveness has been diminishing rapidly. As you mentioned, most people do not find any real applicable use for it. Much more knowledge can be achieved through a little diligent effort and the internet, I think.

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  9. LOL@ I know you are literate. I also see your point. If you have the good fortune to work for yourself, then yes, education might be a waste of time and you might have far more learning via experience than through Uni. But for some of us, we need to apply for jobs in the regular market and unfortunately nothing sells better than a paper that screams of your qualifications. Sometimes, the higher the better!

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  10. Maybe you want to learn something, but people beat you down <<< yes, I know exactly what it feel like, I agree that people will satisfy if we say "yes" and people will disappointed if we say "no" and again but you know, we have to protect our self too, we have to love our self first before we love another people, oh yes hmm, hello I'm another stranger here 😀 I would like to say thanks to you to visit my SMALL blog, I'm really excited, I hope you enjoy it, thank you ^^

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    1. You’ve hit the nail on its’ head. You are absolutely right! We have to take care of ourselves before we can make even the smallest impact on the world. We need to satisfy ourselves before we can satisfy others. We need to find happiness alone before finding it in others. I’m glad you enjoyed my article!

      P.S. – Your English is just fine! Everyone starts somewhere, and I was able to get most of it very easily!

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      1. oh yes , of course…
        I hope we can still see each other so I can learn from you , how to be a better writer, also person 😀 I really need your support, I really enjoyed it ..

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  11. I like the work you two put together. ‘No’ is very powerful in drawing limits that others understand. Don’t be surprised if people take up your time and effort if you never made your limitations absolutely clear.

    I agree on the problem with standard education, just never leave a clear path unless you know what you are doing instead. Formal education is like your drivers licence – you have proof that you are able to drive on defined roads. Racing, drifting, off-road, monster trucks, busses and rocket cars are off limit. If you seek different get skills that you don’t learn with obeying to standards.

    Passion is much more valuable than money. Leave the defined path if you are willing to work 80 hours a week for your idea to avoid working 40 hours for someone else’s (paraphrased from Lori Greiner)

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    1. Exactly agree with you. In the end, everything that school teaches you, the google machine can serve the same purpose. Formal education isn’t a key to the career door anymore. Companies want to see how you can provide them with value. What does your knowledge and skills bring to the table. A piece of paper shows nothing. Knowledge speaks for itself.

      I completely like the last part of your comment as well. If you find your passion, those 80 hour weeks seem like nothing, because the enjoyment comes with passion!

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  13. “No” is also a complete sentence. Our decisions are our own and we need not feed the mistaken obligation to justify them to others. I have happily flown out of many a window when “no” closed a door. Great piece – thanks for sharing your insight!

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    1. I completely agree with you! I’m glad you enjoyed the article enough to post a comment. I appreciate the discussion and the opinions you put out here! My readers and I truly want more of it! 🙂

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  14. If only my parents could read this.. I’m in this very situation right now. And I don’t know what to do. It is hard to control your emotions from all the negative things then focus on your work. But I’m doing my best! :)))

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    1. It’s unfortunate because parents come from a different generation, one where going to school was directly related to getting a job. In this day, that isn’t a reality anymore. I do not advocate defying your parents, but I definitely advocate following your heart and dreams. I’m stuck in this situation because I chose to appease certain people around me, when saying ‘no’ would have benefitted myself much more than school. But, there is no time for regrets.

      I hope you continue to shine and choose to follow your heart, instead of someone else’s’.

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  15. I’m curious what you are in school for. It’s sad that you find it so draining. I have long thought of “school” as soul crushing. But now I’m a professor. It’s funny: I make it my highest priority to bring out the talents in each of my students, but in doing so I feel as if I risk my own job. It’s as if I took the conflict of being a student to the next higher level, but the pressure to conform goes so much deeper than that.

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    1. I’m in school for criminology. That’s precisely the problem: Most professors do not do what you do. Most professors are only concerned with their pay-checks and treat students like a number. That’s the system we live in unfortunately. The majority of professors at my university are bitter and one-sided. There is no room for original thought or active debate. There is only reciting old ideas and writing these long drudging papers with zero point or standards. Knowledge is treated so insignificantly and nothing applicable is learned. As for me, the only things I learned were ‘crime is declining’ and the ‘war on drugs is bad.’ Both of which I knew before I went to school, and if I didn’t, both of which the answers are searchable on the google-machine.

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      1. I had exactly the same feelings when I was in grad school. It was only after I graduated and gave myself permission to read what I wanted that I truly began to discover my talents and my passion, and a whole shitload of truths I wish I had found out about ten years ago!

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