Seven Methods To Deal With Your Worries

I’ve been running around like a headless chicken. This last week of school has been agony. It has been sucking my soul. Today has been one of those days where nothing seems to click. I woke up worried.

I woke up thinking about all the assignments I have due over the next few days. I even forgot to write an article for today. I feel like this article is rushed. These worries are taking over.

It happens to everyone, but this isn’t a side of me that I like very much. It’s dramatic, but when you get caught up in the moment it can feel like you’re drowning. All you want is a breath of fresh air.

Today I want to focus on solutions rather than problems so let’s ignore the thousands of hours I could spend figuring out the why, and instead, focus on the how. How am I going to get rid of these worries? Here’s what I came up with:

1) Write it down and throw it away.

I find it incredibly therapeutic to, first, be able to physically look at my worry, and then proceed to throw it out.

Throwing away your worries and stresses can have a profound effect. The physical act of writing down your negative thoughts and then throwing them away can be a mental cleanse.

2) Cancel rule.

I find this method extremely effective. The next time you worry and find yourself lost in your thoughts, start repeating ‘cancel’ to yourself.

Repeat the word ‘cancel’ over and over again, until the word itself means nothing. You will have derailed your negative train of thought and you can start to focus on something else other than your worries.

3) Confide in someone.

“A trouble shared is a trouble halved” – Chinese Proverb.

Sharing your worries with another person allows you tackle that stress with someone who may have encountered the same problem. Everyone is human and they have the same worries that you do.

You’re not alone in this. Their guidance and objective perspectives could lead you to a revelation that you would have never reached otherwise.

4) Write your grateful list.

You don’t have to be surrounded by family eating turkey to be grateful. You will beat up, tired, lonely and heartbroken throughout this life. During these times being grateful for whatever you do have can be the only thing that saves you.

I jump to this tip as soon as I feel even a slight funk coming on. Write down ten things you are grateful for, or twenty, or thirty. As many as you need to remember that there is always something in your life worth feeling good about.

The worse off you are, the deeper you will have to dig. But if you find something to be grateful for at rock bottom, you’ll never have to worry about falling again.

5) Go for a walk.

Being in nature is calming – but even looking at an image of nature can decrease worry levels and increase positivity.

I love walking outside. The sights and smells have a very calming effect on my brain. Sometimes, I take the beauty of nature for granted. When you stop everything and go for a walk, you really start to appreciate the beauty around you.

That energy is transferred to me and leaves me with a renewed sense of vigor.

6) Breathe deeply.

Few people breathe properly. They have breathing that is shallow and faint because it’s left to the unconscious mind. Pay close attention to your breathing. Focus on your breath and feel it deep within your stomach.

It allows your body and brain to get a burst of oxygen, relieving any worries. There are a lot of little problems that can be worried over. The key to managing worry comes from ignoring these little problems and just taking a couple deep breaths to calm down.

Take thirty seconds to stop what you are doing and breathe. This always helps me. No matter what you are doing, you always have thirty seconds to spare. 

7) Ten-year trick.

I imagine myself ten years in the future, at a bar with friends. Everyone is laughing. We are talking about how funny it is that we used to think everything was such a big deal.

Then I break out my story about the current situation I am in and how trivial it really was. Of course everyone dies of laughter because the future me is hilarious.

Imagine what a funny story your current situation is going to be a couple years from now. This will help you keep things in perspective and move on from your worries in a more graceful fashion.

8) Reset tomorrow.

I lied. Sorry. But, I came up with one more.

Sometimes I am in a funk, I’ve tried everything, and there is no way out. At this point I remind myself that this is just a feeling, not who I am. Maybe today is a write off, but tomorrow is a new day.

Every morning begins anew. Focus on restarting tomorrow. Everything will be fine. Worries come and go, and no matter how big or small they are, there is always a resolve. The more you worry, the bigger it becomes and the longer it stays at the forefront of your mind.

They won’t go away unless you stop thinking about them. The more you think about your problems, the more your problems will multiply. Think positive thoughts and put on a brave face. If all else fails, reset tomorrow.

Thank you readers for helping me figure out my worries. I’m glad you’re on this journey with me.

Be bold, be free, and love on.

74 thoughts on “Seven Methods To Deal With Your Worries

    1. Thank you so much for your kind words! I hope these helped you out and I hope the people you share them with, benefits as well. I’m still worried, but I think these will get me through my worries. 🙂

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    1. Thank you very much! Although, I’m still worried, I know these tips will help me figure out everything. Thank you so much for the comment 🙂

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  1. YES YES YES – a thousand yeses. You clever sausage. 6 and 8.. or the walk… I also remind myself that this event, this moment.. this feeling is but a blip in my lifeline. It isn’t forever. I probably won’t even recall it in 1 year let alone, 3, 5 or 10. Perspective.. we all need some sometimes. x

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    1. You’re absolutely right Rebecca! Reminding ourselves that this is just one small thing in our large lives really puts a lot of perspective! Just that thought alone has made me feel so much better today!

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  2. Great tips, except for the grateful list personally. I don’t normally do those, nor do they work when I try, it kind of annoys me honestly, but other’s, very effective!

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  3. Hi, 2helpfulguys! I love your methods, and they’re so important. When you’re overwhelmed with worry, it’s almost impossible to relate to the world well. I thought I’d give you one of mine too: mountains. When I stand near a millions-year-old, enormous mountain, it helps put everything in persepctive. I’m small and temporary and so are my problems. It’s such a comfort. It’s also the reason I ended up living at the foot of the Tetons. 🙂

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    1. That’s an amazing addition to the list! We don’t have mountains where I live, but I’m sure they have some ridiculous effects on your body. Thank you so much for the addition! I know my readers will appreciate this as much as I have! 🙂

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  4. Not bad and being in headless chicken mode lol, I find taking a walk works best for me, it’s a change of scene which can alter your mindset.

    Sometimes switching everything off (especially the mobile) and sitting quietly for 30 mins just to empty my mind and get my centre back.

    Great advice.

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    1. It has been a rough morning, but I feel so much better right now. All these positive comments/feedback has been keeping me going! I truly appreciate this!

      You’re right! I forgot to include mediation! Turning everything off and sitting quietly has some profound effects! 🙂

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  5. Thank you for sharing these, I will definately try some of them.
    Actually, prayers and prayers for others (instead of solutions of self-problems) can be useful, along with meditation. If these are too great challenges, I often do push-ups…

    Have a Blessed Night!

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    1. That’s another great tip to add to the list! Thank you so much. I know my readers will appreciate this just as much as I do! 🙂

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  6. Reblogged this on My view and commented:
    Today the world was against me as I raced against the clock to sort out all the things going wrong. Today I was the White Rabbit . It didn’t feel like Wonderland though . Then I read this blog and thought …you are right tomorrow is another day …thanks guys

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    1. I hope your mother feels better! And try to explain to her, that she should just focusing on improving by JUST 1% each day.

      Just 1% is very easy to to. Just focus on worrying less by 1% each day. I hope these tips help her! 🙂

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  7. will definetly be using some of these tips from now on. I sometimes feel that life is taking over and I don’t know if I’m coming or going. I always have far too much on my plate and I find writing down lists and organising things a massive help rather than trying to do it all at once 🙂

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    1. I personally LOVE LOVE lists. They make my day go around, especially with organization and life in general. That’s great to hear that you will be using some of these. I’m glad I could be of help. There are many more suggestions in the comments from others, if you’d like to take a look as well! 🙂

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  8. Thank you for this list! It’s relevant to so many people right now. My favorite methods for dealing with worry are confiding in someone, journalling (both about my anxieties and about what I’m grateful for), and yoga. “Reset tomorrow” is always good, too. I find things look so much more positive after a good nights sleep.

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    1. My only wish is to help people through my many mistakes and life experiences. I’m glad to hear that this benefited you and hopefully someone else!

      I love your method of journaling. I’ve done it for a little bit and I found it incredibly effective just to get EVERYTHING on a piece of paper at the end of the night! And also, yoga is amazing! The feeling of peace and centeredness after a session is unreal!

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  9. I have a ninth one for you (if you don’t mind).

    Do something about what you’re worrying about instead of sitting there worrying.

    Just a thought. ❤

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    1. I NEVER MIND. I most definitely welcome all input!

      Thank you so much for the addition! Doing something about the thing you’re worried about is a great solution as well! I can’t believe I forgot it!

      I know my readers will appreciate this just as much as I have!

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  10. being I have anxiety issues (& they are not always worries) it can just be loud noise that gets me & so on.. I find reading helps. Doing crafts as for the most part it is relaxing (though at times can be frustrating) as well of course… Writing! (probably why i have 6 blogs here!

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    1. You know what I recommend for anxiety? I recommend doing something you love everyday or even thinking about something you love during your anxiety. I used to suffer from it, and while it was a slow recovery process, I found that those things helped tremendously!

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      1. When I can, I do try to fight through it, but there are times it’s as if someone smacked me in the head when I get an attack. When I feel it coming and know what’s going on, I’ll try to read a book, or make something or just write on the computer (though that doesn’t help when people you live with don’t shut up, or make too much noise which also triggers them. (not to mention not having a clue) I have ways here and there though it doesn’t always work. Sometimes I jsut end up sulking when for whatever reason I’m not able to do anything I would if I have a mild attack

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  11. Sometimes I just look out my window and try to figure out what the birds are worrying about. After a couple minutes of this I remember once again that they’re not worrying about anything, and that’s why they look so happy. Amazing how many times I’ve started that practice without actually immediately realizing exactly where it’s going to end up. The next time I’m stressed, and I see it on my anti-stress list, I still start it, and the darn thing still works, so I leave it on the list. Do you think maybe it’s too late for me? Lol.

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    1. You know, I wrote a previous post on the worries of ducks. I realized the same thing about ducks. They are so peaceful as they float along. Even in their little fits of fighting, when it ends, they go along floating peacefully like nothing happened.

      It is never too late for anything. I truly believe that. I hope these tips worked for you, and if you’d like to read further, search “Lessons from ducks.”

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    1. This absolutely made my day! Mind?! I definitely do not mind. In fact, I am honoured! I am glad you enjoyed it and hopeful if continues to help.

      Thank you so so much 🙂

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  12. Wise and practical suggestions, Leroy. My mother taught me the ten-year perspective trick years ago. It does help! I’ve also found that listing my blessings is very therapeutic and attitude-changing. Number three, “Confide in someone,” is also beneficial, especially when the Someone is God. Since he is the all-knowing, all-powerful Lord of the universe, he can be trusted to work things out for our good (Romans 8:28). I can’t imagine facing each day without him!

    Thank you for becoming a follower of my blog. I am honored, and pray you find the posts meaningful.

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    1. The ten-year trick is personally one of my favourites! It was actually Steven’s method that I implemented in my life during worries. I find that it works splendidly! I’m glad you enjoyed my article, and I hope to see you here soon!

      I do enjoy your content as well! 🙂

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  13. A long time ago, a wise person told me to write my worries down and to leave them in a special box. She called it a God box, but it doesn’t have to be called that. Once in a while I’ll do that, and it’s amazing how doing so truly frees me from the worry. Great post – thank you!

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    1. That’s a great idea. The title of the box doesn’t matter. It’s more the thought of locking away your worries in a box! I’ve never done it, but I can see why it is incredibly therapeutic! Thank you for the suggestion. I know my readers will appreciate it as much as I have!

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  14. Some of this worked for me….. but some of them, i’ve tried and they’ve not been that effective in helping me out of my funk.
    But, i do agree…. these are good tips to have and look at, now n then.

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    1. Thank you so much! All of them are definitely not universal. Some will work and some won’t. The idea is to find the ones that do work, and stick with those. Also, there are lot more in the comments section. I suggest you look through there for more tips! 🙂

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  15. Great tips! As a fellow worrier I have to “cancel” a lot. When my brain is in overdrive I also like to focus on what I am doing in that precise moment …where I am, what I can see, what am I touching, smelling and hearing…focussing on the present strips away everything else.

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    1. Those are all GREAT suggestions. Just trying to focus on anything else that isn’t your worries does wonders for you thought monster. I’m glad you enjoyed it and I hope you continue to benefit from our articles! 🙂

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  16. great tips…worry is something we all experience, some of us more than others…I used to tell my children,”what is the worst that can happen, can you live with it, if so then let the worry go!” It seemed to help them a great deal…we all have our coping mechanisms! I like the chanting the word cancel…I often wake up at night…my mind will race and not calm enough to go back to sleep…I’ve begun chanting in my mind of course, “sleep well” and with in seconds I’m asleep again…works amazingly well…Take care… 🙂

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    1. The interrupt mantra is one of our favourites! It is Steven’s method, but I have adopted it during my worry sessions. I find it does work splendidly. That’s great advice for your children! It really puts into perspective the problem. More often than not, the problem is small in the real world and large in your head. That’s a great lesson to teach your kids!

      I’m glad this article helped. Please visit again soon! 🙂

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  17. This is great!! An absolute must read… What great tips to help keep us out of “worry” mode. Worrying is so destructive and we all do it. Our lives are so filled with craziness each day that we don’t stop to breathe as we should. We can all use 1-2-3 or more of these steps to help bring worrying and life into perspective. I love #4 and use it frequently. There are others that I use as well to help balance out the crazy. Thank you for your insight into this. Looking forward to future posts from you guys.

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  18. I think these are all great both for situations you should let go and for situations that legitimately deserve some worry, but that worry doesn’t help – like the illness of a child. I can’t change it, but I have to stay on top of it (which for me is the same thing sometimes as worrying), but I just need to refocus for a time. Breathing is especially helpful – always! Thanks for the reminders!

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