FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

My last post was called “LIVING YOUR LIFE FOR YOURSELF”

It was about a big change in my life that I have made in order to follow my dreams.

In this post I received a question from “TheFourthIdiot” owner of the blog http://inspiringinfinity.wordpress.com/

His question was essentially this:
How do yo proceed down your path if you are not even sure if it is the right path? How do you develop the unshakable faith required to take great leaps towards this dream in the face of risk?

First, I will speak about my general perspective on finding life’s purpose and then I will give practical tips to help you find out what your purpose is, or build confidence in the purpose you already feel.

I have always struggled with the idea of a single purpose or dream.

I wrote an article about this some time ago when I was contemplating the future in a panic, wondering if I’ll ever figure out what I want to do with my life.

I had tried so many things and failed spectacularly at every single one of them. I had gone deep into different paths and realized that none of these things were right for me.

But what I didn’t realize back then was that each path had led me to the next. Not only that, each path gave me new tools to carve my way through the next.

Learning drums taught me the universal truths to learning anything. Being in a band taught me how to get people to work together towards a goal. Doing sales taught me the ability to articulate myself more efficiently and convincingly.

Alas, none of these paths were right for me. I’m writing this blog and doing these videos right now and I still can’t be sure if this is my life’s mission.

But now I have confidence that moving forward down this path will give me new tools and lead me where I need to go.

Your dream will change as you grow.

This is inevitable. You aren’t meant to just do one thing with your life.

But you are meant to pursue things in your life that are meaningful to you. If you aren’t going after any dream then you won’t be lead to the next one.

My main point here is that you should never fear whether your path is right or wrong.

You will never have to retrace your steps on this path and start over.

If it isn’t meant to be, a new path with appear somewhere down the road when you are a new person with new tools and different perspectives.

But you have to start somewhere.

So here are my practical tips for figuring out what you should be doing right now.

Some questions with some important answers.

Answer this list of questions over the period of a week. Keep them in the back of your mind and write down anything you come up with throughout this time.

What are you hobbies/passions?

I don’t just mean flying kites and collecting stamps. Write down anything you do that you don’t get paid for and enjoy nonetheless.

Blogging, video games, gardening, meditation, yoga, fitness, dieting, helping people, building, drawing, photography, knitting and a world of others can fall into this category.

What are your talents/skills.

What have you learned throughout your life that you are good at?

Can you play an instrument? Are you good with your hands? Are you good with words? Do you have a knack for organization? What have you shown an aptitude for in your current and previous jobs?

Write down all of your talents because more than likely some of these things will be incorporated in your path.

When have you been happiest?

Think back to your past jobs, experiences and hobbies to further define what makes you happiest. These things will be clues to what the overarching theme of your life should be.

What do you want to be remembered for?

This is a question that gave me a lot of insight into what I wanted to do with my life.

After much thought I realized that I wanted to be remember for helping people. I didn’t know how I would help people or who I would be helping, but I knew that I wanted to make people’s lives better.

How do you want to be remembered? As a millionaire business guru? As a creator of beautiful works of art? Or as someone who raised a beautiful family that will go on to improve the world?

Combining these answers with the next exercise will get you that much closer to knowing what you should be working towards.

Invigorate or debilitate?

Write down everything you do for a week, even the boring tasks.

Breakfast, showering, playing video games, projects, work, social life, everything.

Once you have done this I want you to create two columns on a “T Chart”. One for things that invigorate you, giving you energy/happiness, and one for things that debilitate or drain you.

Split everything you have done that week into these two columns.

You will often find that the path you should be working towards involves things you are already doing. Look through the list of invigorating things, combine it with your list of passions and your list of skills.

Lay it all out in front of you and look at it every day. Let these things cultivate in your mind.

Now that you know what you enjoy, what you are good at, the things that invigorate you in your life, the times you were happiest and the way you want to be remembered, I am confident that your next path will appear from the fog.

No one can tell you what your path is.

And you can’t even be sure that you will stay on the same path for the rest of your life.

But follow the path that lies before you now, one that leads you to a dream, and you will gain new tools and perspectives that will open new paths in the future.
That is what will give you the confidence to move forward.

You never have to worry about failing. I’ve failed a million times, but moving forward towards a dream has always lead me in the right direction.

But being afraid to follow a dream, that will only lead to nightmares.

With love,
Steven Farquharson, 2HG.

57 thoughts on “FINDING YOUR PURPOSE

  1. Very good! I’ve heard this before, somewhere. This is something that many people need to read, and do. There is no feeling in the world, that compares to the feeling you get, when you feel you have found your purpose. I will link my followers to this blog. Thanks for putting it out there…

    Like

    1. Thank you for sharing my words, I appreciate it. I hope to encourage as many people as possible to follow their dreams. My worst fear would be the regret I would feel if I didn’t try my hardest to create what I want in this world. I don’t want anyone else to have to experience that either. Thank you for stopping by. 🙂

      Like

  2. Nice one! Hunter Thompson suggested we choose the path we’re going to enjoy following and to focus on the daily experience, not the end goal. He said ‘swim, don’t float’.

    Like

  3. This reminds me of something I read on a friend’s Facebook wall earlier this morning – Everything you are going through is preparing you for what you asked for.

    I agree that movement is better than waiting for something to happen. Thank you for helping others take the steps to follow their dreams.

    Like

    1. If you wait around nothing in your life changes to make room for what you are waiting for. Change is always need to encourage natural progression. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your words with me. I appreciate it!

      Like

  4. This is something I have had an interest in for some time and have think that childhood dreams might have something to offer as well. I wanted to be a dancer and due to my parents not supporting my interest, I feel that a part of me has always been unfulfilled. I have had friends say that I could get involved in the dancing community some how, but its not the same as being a ‘dancer’.

    I have created a survey about childhood dreams if anyone is interested in participating… https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/Z69S9XY

    Like

    1. Aw, it sucks when people don’t support what you want most in life. Especially those closest to you. I hope that you get back into dancing very soon. Anything is possible, you could end up learning and then teaching classes!

      I wish you good luck with your survey and all future endeavors!

      Like

      1. Your kind words are very much appreciated. The thought of becoming a dancer/teacher at 46 is a bit of a challenge, however I have seriously placed yoga into my life as a way to reconnect to feeling good about being in my body and what it can actually do. My flexibility is much better, but not quite at the stage of how I could perform the splits as a child. Progress is slow, but I feel good about this re-connection. Once again, your kind words are heart-felt.

        Like

  5. Great post! I love how you look at previous “failed” attempts of finding your path. I too have tried many things in the past and am still working on some, but on a more downscaled level now I have started blogging as well. They indeed have given me more skills and experiences, so why not look at them as essential keys to the current path? As new things develop I am sure there will be many D-tours, but it sure feels good to finally be of help to others in finding happiness, which seems to be my subconscious thread that keeps popping up wherever I go or whatever I do. When I read this it dawned on me that the path we are on is always the right path for us, even if we cannot see it as we are going through difficulties! I also loved your list of questions to ask yourself, to put your life in perspective, not too big and hard to do and I am sure it will give the clarity people are looking for. 🙂

    Like

    1. If you look at the experiences in your life as keys to countless doors then you will always feel like you are gaining something instead of wasting time. It’s a beautiful way to look at the world. Besides, I believe it is the real way this journey called life works. I wish you the best of luck pursuing your goals! I believe in you! 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  6. Very practical, solid advice. I wholeheartedly agree; our “purpose” changes as we keep moving forward. If life is an adventure and we’re adventurers, the discoveries we make about ourselves on our journey will be the best adventure of all. 🙂

    Like

    1. That is an awesome turn of phrase you put out there! I hope to give practical advice as well as my own perspective behind it, so I’m glad that you received that. Too many people think that they only have one life purpose and they need to figure it our ASAP. I hope to show people that you are correct, it is the journey that is the best adventure. Thank you for stopping by, don’t be a stranger!

      Liked by 1 person

  7. So refreshing to read this… my life has been similar in how I have tried so many different things, failed many times, but through it all, I have always been led by my heart. I have managed pretty well to keep strong in my many paths, but it sure helps to hear your supportive words. Good booster for me, thanks!

    Like

    1. If I gave you a boost with this article then I am a proud man indeed. If you follow your heart it will always lead you where you need to go. Keep going strong and stay positive! We need more people like you as an example to others in this world!

      Liked by 1 person

  8. “Your dream will change as you grow.” I love that. I also love the way you guys gave objective steps to figure out something as subjective as “passion.” Great post!

    Like

    1. Dealing with issues that are so subjective can be a challenge for sure. I tried about a million things when I was desperately looking for my “Purpose” in life. This post is a combination of the things that helped me the most so I help they help others just as effectively. Thank you for the compliments, I do appreciate them.

      Like

  9. Your post is as insightful as it is helpful. I found my purpose intuitively, and took a circuitous path. Your steps would have been helpful at the start! What you say is true. My dream has changed as I have grown. And you are right about no one being able to tell you what your path is. Though for me it was helpful to keep an open mind to suggestions from mentors along the way. Your post reminds me of the early Apple tagline Steve Jobs used: The journey is the reward. Wise indeed.

    Like

    1. These are also things I wish someone told me at the beginning of my troubles with the idea of “purpose”. But better late than never I suppose.

      I absolutely love that quote, thank you for sharing it and thanks for sharing your wonderful words!

      Like

  10. It is very easy to get lost on the way but your tips are a massive step in the right direction. If we keep following what it is that we love and what makes us happiest then we will always be heading in the right direction. Great post. Thanks!

    Liked by 2 people

  11. This post was beautifully written. A dream gives hope to people and it keeps us moving forward. I’ve had doubts with my dream but I’ve decided to go for it because it’s what I love. I want to spend a life that is filled with possibilities.
    I look forward to more of your inspirational posts and thank you for following my blog, I appreciate it.

    Like

    1. It’s no problem at all, I’ll follow any blog that I enjoy! Thank you for taking the time to come back over this way. I really do hope that your life is filled with all the possibilities you can imagine and more. Stop by anytime, friend!

      Liked by 1 person

  12. Reblogged this on micahpena and commented:
    Purpose. Funny thing is I exactly know what this guy is talking about but the problem is I’m not doing anything to act it out and live by it. I always feel that there’s a right time for it though I know NOW is always the right time. My brain is not havng a clear communication with my flesh and muscles. this is a problem. Looks like man vs himself. Anyways, micah here’s another one for you!

    Like

  13. Hi guys! Thank you very much for the nice post. My problem was that I didn’t realize the whole thing is a process: finding what you like and living it. It is not something you find once and you are done with it. All the best 🙂

    Like

  14. Thank you for following my blog Steven. I was looking at your writing and it makes so much sense. I too have questioned my journey and how to change the world. I look forward to more of your thoughts.

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s