The Extroverted Superhero

Everyone knows at least one person who is extremely extroverted. Someone who is completely comfortable in every social situation. They feed of off peoples’ social energy. I call them energy vampires, but more positively, an extroverted superhero.

How do they do it?

For as long as I can remember, I had been an introvert. I had been severely bullied in elementary school. I had a two ‘friends’ through it all. Really, they weren’t friends, but just people in similar circumstances.

All through high school, this trend prevailed resulting in a lack-luster high school experience. While the bullying receded, the lack of confidence and self-esteem grew inside me. I had distant memories of happiness and confidence slowing slipping through my fingers.

I felt like I was not good enough, not for anyone else and not even for myself. I couldn’t form new relationships and I couldn’t maintain old ones. I started to internalize this behaviour.

It was definitely a dark time. Thoughts always zoomed passed my head. Maybe it was hormones talking, but I was anxious and depressed. Would suicide solve anything? What if I faked my own death and started over?

But, gradually I changed. I never really thought about how or what prompted it, but I changed. Thinking back now, I know how it happened. Everything changed gradually after I met one person.

Taking Baby Steps

I noticed that he started smiling at people, random people, for no reason. There is a lot of power in a smile. It’s not very often, that people smile at others. I adopted the random smile. Even without actual social interactions, smiling eased me out of my comfort zone.

Smiling eventually made people approach me, which took out half the internal battle. Extremely anxious at first, the interactions got easier.

You have to learn to walk before you can run. You have to take small steps to get over this hurdle. Something as small and simple as a smile can have profound affects on you and the receiver. You will notice that they almost always smile back.

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A contented feeling erupted in my body and I smiled more. The more people I smiled at, the more that feeling grew. Eventually smiling became a normal reaction.

The Gradual Talk

Eventually these smiles blossomed into brief, albeit terrifying, conversations. It was extremely nerve-racking. Everything that was not supposed to happen happened. My hands started to sweat; my heart was beating faster and faster, louder and louder, until I couldn’t even hear myself think.

But after each conversation, my body produced a euphoric rush. That feeling pushed me to talk to more people. I needed to feel that rush again. Thinking back, it was like a drug and I was addicted.

I found myself talking to someone new every single day. My body was craving that rush and pushed me to do it. The crippling fear was there, but I used it to my advantage.

Being an introvert is hard work. I always knew I wanted to be a extroverted superhero, but when every single fiber in your body is telling you not to do something, it’s hard to go against it. But I promise you, when you do, that feeling is incredible.

I went from being a complete introvert to a moderate extrovert. Unconsciously, I desired a change and then gradually changed. What would happen if someone consciously decided to change? I think you may become an extroverted superhero.

I would love to be an extroverted superhero one day. Talking to anyone, at anytime, about anything, is an underrated superpower. Plus, I think I could pull off a cape.

Approaching random people is still somewhat hard for me, but it gets easier and easier every single day.

2 thoughts on “The Extroverted Superhero

  1. I think it’s important to point out the difference between shyness and introversion. Introversion is your tendency to need more alone time or “down time” than other people (such as their extroverted friends). It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re shy!

    But nearly everyone has a skewed idea of what introversion and extroversion are, so the fault is not yours, sir.

    Overall being introverted is not a bad thing and you shouldn’t strive to be extroverted. It’s when you’re overly shy and too comfortable in your comfort zone that things become a problem. You have always been extroverted, Leroy! You gain your energy from other people, there were just points in your life where you were too shy or lacked the confidence to go out and gain that energy.

    It’s always good to challenge yourself. I think everyone, introverts and extroverts and everyone in between, should do so.

    I just wanted to point this out because, as a writer, you want to be careful not to favour one type of person. You may alienate a particular group of readers and I’m very sure this is not your intent.

    I hope I’ve helped! As always, you’re doing a wonderful job. 🙂

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    1. That is very true! I hope I didn’t pick out any individual readers! I don’t ever want to single out or make any feel bad!
      But you are right, I did not take in to account that difference. It’s a very interesting way of looking at it.

      Maybe you are right. Maybe I was just shy. Either way though, it’s interesting to see a change within myself.
      It is interesting to notice something that drastic, something that I thought I would never shake, change.
      It has really impacted all aspects of life!
      Thanks for the comment! It’s always appreciated 😀

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