I decided to write on this topic because it’s something that everyone experiences. I’ve dealt with this emotion within many facets of my life.
I used to be plagued with anger issues. It hung above me like a looped noose waiting for my head to be strung through.
If you give anger a chance it will consume your entire being. You get agitated. You can’t think straight. Or worse, you may see red and do something you will regret. We all get angry. Damn, I got angry today, but the whole idea is to realize it and stop yourself before you escalate to those symptoms.
I don’t want to rehash the old “count to ten” methods. In my opinion, it isn’t an effective way of dealing with anger. Instead, I want to suggest something else. I want you to think about these points in a potential situation.
A) You’re Worth More
Think about it. Getting angry isn’t worth it. It does not solve anything and changes nothing. Granted, it is easier said than done, but ignoring the little things will provide you a more stable mind. When a situation arises think about what would happen if you got mad.
Would it turn this negative situation into a positive one? Chances are (in most situations), the answer is no. Getting upset/angry/mad will not change it into a positive, or anything at all. So really, does it really make a difference?
You are worth more than that.
B) Your Time is Precious
You have a limited amount of time to achieve your goals/aspirations/objectives. Getting angry just wastes the valuable time that you could be using to create, think, or learn something new.
My Tip: When the situation arises where I feel close to anger, I will try to think a certain goal I have, (in this case, it is writing a book) and instead of getting angry, try to come up with a chapter title or idea for a chapter.
You time is better spent on other more important, life-progressing things, than it is on getting upset over something.
C) Focus on yourself
When a particular situation arises, the best thing to do is remove yourself from it. Remember, the focus here is you. You are the subject that you need to please. Do whatever you need to do to calm down. In my experience, removing myself from the situation gives me the ability to properly assess the situation.
D) Don’t Give Them Satisfaction
People try to get a rise out of you. That’s their intent. They want you to be flustered and angry. You shouldn’t give them the satisfaction.
As a child, I was put into multiple situations where getting angry was the only option or at least that’s what I thought.Back when bullying wasn’t a “thing,” I was bullied. Getting angry was a way to cope with all the frustration.
But that’s exactly what THEY want. They want you to feel bad, upset, and flustered. That stops you from progressing and hinders your ability to grow and improve.
I believe the the main focus is you. You need to handle whatever anger issues plague your mind because above all else, your mind stands. The ability to deal with anger effectively will drive you closer to your goals.
Instead of wasting time on frivolous problems, you can focus on yourself. Achieve what you want to and use the time you would have been angry on more productive things.
To end this all, I’d like to propose a challenge.
Write down at least one longterm goal you hope to achieve. Keep that in your mind at all times. When a sticky situation arises, remember that goal and instead of thinking about angry you are or may get, think about how you can get one step to achieving that goal.
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